Day 2 on the bench: went on a date on a weekday! 😯 Are you offended if your date doesn't initiate any touch or kiss you after one meeting? I hate it when my dates get touchy right away 😒

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Nonsense, we all know humans communicate emotions through power point

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One time I went on a first date with a guy I met on eharmony. Great conversation, total intellectual and emotional connection, hung out for 3 hours at the restaurant. At the end, he gave me an awkward side hug, said "I've got your email" and that was it. Figured he just wasn't that into me...We're coming up on our 4 year wedding anniversary. 💑

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My wife said about our first date "If you didn't kiss me at the end of the night, I would've thought I did something wrong or the date didn't go well"

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💁🏽🐠 here-if im a date with someone i've never hung out with before (so we didnt meet through mutual friends or at an event or something) i will just hug at the end of the date and say something like, "this was fun, i'm free ______ if you'd want to get together again soon, just text me" so i've signified im interested in seeing them again but left the ball in their court.

if its someone i already know/feel comfortable with i might kiss them (or more if i feel like it). but tbh i usually wait at least 3-4dates before sleeping with someone - i think its the midwesterner in me, 🤷🏽‍♀️

you do you though OP, if you're not comfortable doing something (even just a hug) dont! starting a relationship with letting someone violate your physical touch boundaries just sets a bad precedent.

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Hm, I see. I typically view the first meeting as a meet-and-greet to evaluate chemistry, mannerisms, etc. so it's often too early for me to feel comfortable touching someone much less kissing them. But I usually say something along the lines of "this was great, let's meet up again" to indicate interest. I'm guessing most people view that as the polite thing to say nowadays even when there's no intention to follow through.

Don't get me wrong, I'm a very affectionate person once I get to know someone, but building up intimacy takes more than one date :/

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Not offended, don't even go for a kiss on first dates anymore. Definitely hug or if we're both vibing will go for a playful touch or two. Dude here.

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At least tough his/her arm or something. Humans communicate emotions through touch.

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Too formal OP

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A1 - I didn't grow up being very affectionate with lots of people and I try to reserve my affectionate side to close friends and SOs as that's what I'm comfortable with. I honestly don't even hug my friends or parents often, so it's a bit too much to have people I meet for the first time expect physical touch so soon.

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I think it all depends on your vibe. Perhaps you have that touch-me-now look. 😂

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I think that's the most obvious sign of whether a date went well. It's not a SURE sign that you're not into him, but as a guy I can see how I'd probably think you're not into me and, other indicators lacking, just move on. Ain't nobody got time for that.

I'd say you should at least hug the person and say something like I hate hugs so that they know that you're the kind of person who doesn't like touching, but are still interested.

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Not looking for hookups so don't want to give off that vibe either. I thought what I've been doing was a good middle ground but apparently not. Wonder if it's a cultural thing...

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I went on a date with a guy once and it went well spent all night talking. He walked me back to the car and went in for the kiss I dodged him. We never went out again and he was really rude from there on out. Maybe bc I hurt his feelings by not smooching him😂 I also dont like alot of contact on first dates either OP

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DD1, that's totally fine by me. I typically think good conversation, flirtatious back and forth, laughter are good indicators a date is going well. A kiss isn't necessary for that confirmation when you feel the vibe.

But like BA1 said, a few times a date tried to kiss me or initiated it in a totally cheesy way and I said, nty, I'd never hear from them again. I want to avoid hurting people's ego / feeling but still indicate I had a good time and would like to see them again, just without getting all physical right away.

P2, Midwesterner here too 👋🏼 I like that you mention when you're free, I'll need it start using that!

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Op- I'm same as you. I am usually very affectionate but during first date I want to really find out the about the person. And I think that is the biggest problem with our society these days- it's all about instant gratification.

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Does it matter if I want the D or have the D, or both? I'm curious if either party gets offended if there's no physical touch after one meet up. I'm personally not but it seems like a lot of people think that's a sign I'm not into them, which seems premature.

I'm the same OP! I'm open to it if the other person initiates, but I usually don't unless I've already met them before. Always do the "when can I see you again" or offer to text for sure tho.

Maybe a deeper question: why no touchy, OP?

Not instant but it's easier to tell if girl is interested in you...

Girl🐠 here- I think a kiss goodbye is appropriate for a first date! If no kiss, then a text shortly after (not like daaayzzz after) will suffice

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