Dealing with my dad having Alzheimer's and really struggling to keep it together at work. I spend hours each day just staring at the screen and thinking about him. Any tips from others experiencing outside stressors?

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I had a ton of issues in Sept (the hurricane displaced us, my uncle was diagnosed with brain cancer, my aunt passed away unexpectedly, & they thought my mom had liver cancer). It was so incredibly hard to focus. When I felt myself slipping, I got up and walked outside for a bit to pull myself together. It felt like i could focus again at least for a few hours.. when i started losing focus again i would go back outside for a bit.

I also really watched what I was eating & exercised more. My anxiety was through the roof because of everything, but diet & exercise help manage that a ton.

Finally - breathe! :)

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I also started to exercise at the gym and try to eat lots of fruits and vegetables.

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Hey OP, I’m dealing with this as well. It’s on my grandma who I spent so much time with growing up. It’s been 4 years now and I am also constantly struggling with the fact that I can’t go back to my home country and accompany her as much as I want and should. It’s either I lose my status here and won’t be able to come back or I don’t get to visit her. Either way I struggle constantly. I think accompany is the best and just to know that you did your best and there isn’t a regret. It’s hard and it will be for a long time seeing loved one gradually forgets 😔

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@OP, I'm dealing with the same issue. Sometimes I want to cry staring at my screen. And sometimes I do when people can't see it. My escape world is getting on interesting projects that would get my mind off depressing thoughts. We can't change the progression of that horrible disease. However, we can try to think what we can do to make our sick parent's life better. My goal is to create one positive feeling for my mom. There is another part to it- acceptance. It is very thought to accept that someone who was our parent, who taught us, is now needs guidance from us. It's the hardest part. Try to treat yourself something that comforts you- coffee with a friend or small talk with a peer.

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Don’t be afraid to take time off if you need it, even if it’s just to stay home for some much needed R&R. I’ve done this and put them in as sick days because I truly believe mental health days are as important as doctors appt, etc. if you’re having a particularly bad day at work, never be ashamed to request to go home a bit early. Self care is very important and while it’s easier said than done, sometimes you need to put yourself first!

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I went through this when my mom had brain cancer. I just had to push through but it def affected my performance and nobody I worked with gave a shit (different firm). No compassion whatsoever. After she passed, I gave those fuckers a middle finger and came to pwc where I found people that are more caring (for the most part). I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I wish I had some uplifting advice - just try to take care of yourself and your dad. Do what you need to do at work but don't let it interfere with what is really most important, and that is family.

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