I will be joining IBM next week in Bangalore ( physical onboarding ) and my hometown is in West bengal , My father is having health problems , mother won't be able to handle everything and no such person we can rely on . Also I am getting married in January . Hence If i stay in Bangalore there will be no one to take responsibility for my marriage prep also . If i convey to my ibm manager will they consider for 4months of WFH?Any documents may have to show?
Need your suggestion please
TGIMFF....Thank God It's Mother Fucking Friday
Just found out I'm pregnant with second! Excited and nervous about life with two young ones (first will be 2 yrs old by the time second arrives). Wondering how the heck I can continue this job??
Curious to know what the norm is — does your firm prorate your bonus for time that you are out on paid parental leave?
How to wean a baby who always nurses to sleep, even for naps? My 9 month old does not take any bottles and this makes work days so hard. Also, am worried this is going to make it impossible for us to send her to daycare.
So at the tender age of 41, my wife and I decided it would be a good idea to add a non-fur baby to the family. I’m buying her a watch as a gift but while at the AD of course I’m now thinking I...
When you got back after maternity leave how were things different for you at work? And did you change your hours or schedule?
My baby is 9 months, and my belly button that was once and innie protrudes and is an outtie after my last pregnancy. No pain, except for when the little one accidentally kicks me in it. Has anyone experienced this? I just want my normal belly button back!!
My first Rolex i got today! Growing up I knew my father really wanted one but could not afford it. I wish he was here today to see that I am finally in a position to get it for myself. Special day for me, thought id share with my fish fam!
One of my executives thinks he is being endearing by calling women "Baby" "Gorgeous" "Sweetie" and he calls men "handsome". I have had multiple complaints against him from female employees and vendors. Does anyone know of any good training courses or advice that can help in this scenario?
Dealing with separation anxiety in 7 month old. He cries every time I step away (even 5 feet), but is fine with another adult around (if I’m not around, other adults can step away for 5 feet, it’s just me). I don’t know what to do- I can’t get anything done (or go to the bathroom!). I can’t baby wear (back hurts a lot). Any tips?
Forgot bose headphones. Sitting next to body odor, loud kid behind who is actively and loudly playing with the armrest. Happy Monday!
Hi all, I posted a few weeks ago. https://joinfishbowl.com/post_19zkg7jorp more updates. 1. She wants to come two weeks earlier. The reason is that the nearest monitoring spot that can provide same-day results (must-have for ivf) is two hours of drive from her. She thinks it’s convenient for her if she’s here for the monitoring. Also, somehow she believes the clinic here has better equipments. 2. I am 17 weeks pregnant. Life is getting more inconvenient for me. I start to regret letting her stay for a few days. (To be continued).
*Long post warning
I was always an above average student during school years in a Tier3 city in Punjab, that was recovering from a rough phase post 1984. Father works for the state police department and you can imagine the rough childhood years.
I got a good score in JEE and graduated from an old NIT. Secured multiple offers in my 4th year and started my career with Deloitte. Things are going well on the professional side and I am on the track to SCon in next YE cycle
32 weeks pregnant and made a mistake of having a friend over 2 days ago. This friend just informed me that she has tested positive for covid. My husband and I will get tested tomorrow but we are freaking out! If I get covid, how will this impact my baby? 😢
Looking for stories about membrane sweeps. I’m 38wks and baby is measuring large 9lbs 11oz and they are suggesting a membrane sweep next week and also having us think about an induction due to large size. Second baby yet this was IVF. First child was natural and delivered late at 42 wks and weighed 6 and a half lbs. Anyone have big baby stories?
I need your input. How can I rejoin the work market after a 3 years gap (between maternity leave and study a Master in Organizational Psychology)
Currently working but not in HR. So I would love to come back to work in my area. But I been getting a lot of rejection during my job search.
Anyone here purchase hospital indemnity insurance from their employer? My husbands company offers it and we’re unsure if it’s worth it or not. We’re hoping to have a baby next year.
If you ask me if I know who your father is, I just assume you're a colossal pri*k born to another colossal but better accomplished pri*k who is deeply ashamed of what a failure you are.
I know this is Off topic : Dont know is there anybody here undergoing pain and agony of wife not able to get pregnant, facing fight and arguments almost every weekends now between my mother and wife, its affecting my new job. We are married for 3.5 years and my wife conceives and then thrice miscarriages and root cause analysis is not being told by any doctor.im mentally exhausted, what do i do just dont understand.
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When buying a suit and planning to tailor it, what is the most important section to have fit OTR? Shoulders then chest?
Any solo travelers out there that would like to tag team on a trip? See some good offers on travel zoo but they are based off of 2 people pricing and solo is either not an option or much more expensive. Just throwing a feeler out. I’m a guy if that matters.
Have a question my mil and bil are planning travel to US to see my daughter. My MIL is on green card but bil is on visitor visa, can he come to the us or does he need to come via Mexico or something of that nature ?
Any job openings for mechanical engineer?
Been seeing this guy for ~2 months and I can’t tell if I’m overthinking. He’s great in person, plans dates, etc. but I’ve noticed he’s stopped reaching out first over text. Whenever I text him he’s responsive, doesn’t let the convo die, and double texts at times, but just hasn’t been starting convos. We have plans for this week and I’m thinking I won’t reach out until the night before if I haven’t heard from him, but I also want the reassurance from being in touch! Any thoughts?
Why isn’t there a public accounting union(s)?
Thoughts on BBDO LA?
Is it possible to open a Canadian bank account from US (planning to move in a few months)? I currently bank with Citi US. Any advice on what the process looks like would be very helpful.
Prayers for Texas, Buffalo, and America.
Im ready to really try to get sober for keeps this time. What tips and tricks do you have for the first ten days where I’ll deal mostly with just the physical elements? Ive done it before@but never made it past 30 days.I finally made it to my first aa meeting. Wasnt ready to get phone numbers yet, but finally going and wanting to go back is big. I also am starting an IOP therapy program which is 10 hrs of weekly therapy for my social anxiety that is certainly intertwined with my drinking.
Buying in the DMV (DC, MD, VA) area. Of course the market is crazy and offers are going well over asking price. I know a strategy is to overbid by a lot just to get you a seat at the table and hope that the house appraises for much less and talk them down. Have people been successful with this?
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It’s really important to me for my kids to have good manners, habits, and morals. Since they spend the majority of their time in childcare or with a nanny, am I still the primary influencer of their behavior? Otherwise how do I make sure their caretakers’ views align with mine?
For moms who got the moderna Spikevax for their little, can you share your experience?
We're in Canada and just got the notification that it's been approved, and have the opportunity to register our 9mo.
We're generally pro vaccine, she's had all her regular shots and I got the shot while pregnant and booster while breastfeeding so she's got some protection, but I'd like to know a bit more about side effect experiences before going forward.
Hi all! I want to know you opinion! On March 1st I started a new job. It's really a great oportunity for my career. Just 2 weeks later I realized that I was pregnant and I don't know how to say it in the company. I'm afraid if they fire me. I haven't said nothing already. What do you think?
My 20 month old has always been a great independent sleeper until last week. He grabbed my hand as I put him down and acted like he needed me. I offered to hold his hand until he fell asleep - he was thrilled. And now it continues. Did I start a bad habit? I don’t mind it completely. And he has been extra needy with me lately in general. Any suggestions in how you would deal with it?
How do you connect with your babes? I feel like I can focus for 10-15 min, then I get bored. Especially as these wake windows get longer.
Any advice on how to deal/handle a micromanager. It’s growing into a toxic environment with everyone on the team. The company itself is great and I would hate to leave but not sure how much more or unnecessary micromanaging I can take.
Requesting a 60% fwa...will that level of reduction actually keep me from working a crazy busy season ?
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I used to really love and prioritize my job before I became a mom. I worked early, worked late, and put a lot of effort into establishing myself as a reliable, hardworking person. But after I had my son, my job went from the number 1 priority to like number 10. I still like my job and I still work hard, but I used to go above and beyond every day, and now, I do my job and I'm logging off at 5 to spend time with my family. Anyone else experience this?
My day today...
My 9 month old has THE WORST sleepover habit. He’s up to breast feed every two hours (maybe less). It’s not even a full feed, just snacking….. Has anyone experienced this, how do I break this habit? So sleep deprived.
Would love to hear recommendations for a task management approach, do you use a notebook? Planner? Google sheets? Loose sheets of paper? Keep it all in your head?? TIA!!
Ok Moms, what’s hour favorite post nursing bra for your blouses? These girls just aren’t the same anymore and I need to invest in some new ones for work.
Zoom tops for women? I’m going to another firm soon and will have to appear on camera more often. I don’t have enough blouses. Any great suggestions of where to shop (bonus for online)? I really don’t feel the need to spend a lot, but want to have some appropriate shirts ready to go.
Talking to kids about adoption:
In college and way before we met, my husband had a summer fling that resulted in a pregnancy and an open adoption with a loving family. The little girl is 10 now and they are not in contact, but I anticipate (and hope) that she will reach out to us one day.
We have an infant now, and I’ve been trying to think about when and how we’ll explain this to her one day. I’m curious if anyone else has had experiences like this and what did/didn’t work. Any advice?
Any moms using the Elvie pump at work? (On-site) how are you “washing/cleaning” your pump parts in between each session? With my Medela I was able to just refrigerate the plastic parts not sure if that will damage the Elvie. TIA
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My husband and me have to move to a different city and right after we finalized the house we found out we are expecting our first baby. We will be getting the house at 25+ weeks pregnant. I have an option to either move then or move 2 months after the baby is here. Really confused if we should be moving before or after. We’ll end up paying mortgage for 2 houses for 6 months if we move after the baby is here. And if before then it would be stressful to find new doc etc in new city. Any thoughts?
Anyone had a child after 35? What was your experience? We’re thinking about adding to our family but I’m scared about the possible complications and a “high risk” pregnancy. What makes 35 the starting age for high risk?
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