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I think that there is a difference between being nice and being a pushover. Personally I find there to be a lot of strength in being warm when the world tells you to be cold- although I understand the pressure to fit into the typical ‘leadership’ archetype. Being kind (and more importantly, genuine) has helped me to foster deep relationships at work, and has empowered me more than hindered me.

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They meant: HAVE a dick

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I didn’t watch the doc but I don’t believe that you need to be a dick to be a good leader. Just the opposite. And I’d say that goes for all genders. The best leadership books I’ve read highlight the concept of servant leadership and that’s the style I’ve adopted. I’ve gotten good results from it so far. To me, the style of being a dick only gets you so far and burns far more bridges. Good in the short term, potentially damaging in the long term.

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This is very insightful, thank you!

Jokes aside, I’ve been told I have a very warm and fun demeanor. I feel it behooves me. When I need to be stern and direct, it is well received. I can quickly, naturally transition back.
Attitude is not synonymous with worth ethic and respect. The typical, ‘you attract more flies with honey...’. Life is short and I believe everything can be a, relatively, enjoyable experience.

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I want to add- I do invest early in evaluating & gauging communication, leadership, and reward styles that may work for each individual. Most people act consistently, in rhythmic or situational patterns. It’s about determining where individuals sit on spectrums (typically- responsibility, eagerness/enthusiasm, self-motivation, detail orientation, creativity, and confidence), in respect to the circumstance, and pivoting as experience influences.
Catering to the individual can allow you to be effective while maintaining your preferred, typical nature.

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No, I choose to "lean out". There are cultures out there that don't not require for one to be a dick. If you're part of the team that does it or forces a "dick leadership style", time to move on and find a better place.

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