Desi Fam, need your support! I’m doing alright in life, normal looks, physically active, good values and ready for commitment but it is really tough to even find potential matches. How did y’all find your life partners? And how did it turn out? 27M if that matters.

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I had luck asking married friends to set me up with their unmarried friends/cousins/colleagues. I was also not in a rush and dated quite a bit. Got married last year at 39. Pregnant now

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Congratulations 🎉🎊

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I’m also 27M. Met my gf on Dil mil haha

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36M, and still looking. As they say, “it’s tough out there”.

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Shaadi.com and going pretty good

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I was selective and talked for a while before meeting anyone. Tried involving the family, so I knew the people I was talking to were genuinely in this for the right reasons. You do have to spend sometime to go through all profiles, but over time it worked

In the same boat. 31M 🤷🏻‍♂️

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Ever considered dating outside your race?

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I would think of it this way- what kind of life do you want to build for yourself and what are the necessary components of that life? Find someone who shares an interest in building the same kind of life. Depending on what the answer is to that question, it may/may not be a thing you could achieve by dating outside your race.

Tinder lol

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Found my husband on Coffee Meets Bagel and I know like 4 other of my friends who found their SOs on it. The algorithm is slow but over time you get better picks

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Met my wife on Coffee Meets Bagel. I will tell you though that the process takes time. I started seriously dating when I was 28/29 and met my wife when I was 32. We got married a couple years later.

The process of dating isn’t always easy. You’ve got to find the time, spend the money (at least on first dates), and more importantly the energy to meet people even though “nothing seems to be working out”.

If I were you, I’d do a few things if you aren’t already - relax your dating app and mental filters. Date absolutely anyone and everyone that would go on dates with you. Some people may surprise you and some people will inevitably disappoint you. By going on many dates you are increasing your confidence, getting good at meeting people, and more importantly improving your chances of finding the right one (if you buy into the theory that it’s a numbers game).

My wife and I have been happily married and even though our cultures are very different (she’s from the Bible Belt in the US and I’m from the Cow Belt in India), we share the same values and ideals. I couldn’t imagine spending the rest of my life with anyone else.

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Good luck. Keep at it. It’s a waiting game.

Are you particular about dating a desi? If not, there is plenty of other fish to date.

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