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It is too early for you get married. Talk to them about how marriage is not your priority and you have different goals and how achieving these goals are more important than getting married. Negotiate around don’t talk about marriage for x years
24F here also! I’m also living at home in the pandemic lol but I refuse to even have the discussion or look at offers that come in. You’re educated and financially independent, no one can force you to do anything. It’s not a negotiation, it’s *your* choice. Also if your fear is around getting “too old,” you are not even close. Most educated women in India aren’t getting arranged marriages at 24.
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Normally I don’t advice people about getting married. But in your case, it won’t hurt if you discuss with your future partner about your goals and expectations, you could very well get married and achieve your goals too.
In case of arranged marriages, it definitely takes at least 2 years to get married from the day you decided you want to get married because you need to meet so many prospective candidates. In current pandemic, it might take even more. So you can start at your own pace and decide if you are ready to get married. I won’t completely write off your parent’s opinion.
You are quite young. You could have plenty of time to do things you always dreamt of doing with your spouse(in case you dreamt anything) like traveling, buying and setting up a home before you decide to have family(again in case if you want to).
Sorry, if I came across as someone who thinks getting married is utmost important for girls. I am not such a person. Just wanted to give personal opinion.
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A2 - Does my comment ask OP to rush things? No.
I tell them to stfu 😤
29F and don’t care
Pretend to be deaf or pretend like you are in agreement and string them along lol
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I'm curious why you view getting married as something that will hurt your accomplishments?
You have new responsibilities as a wife, unfortunately. “Wifely duties” 🙄🤢
You have a few more years. Ask your parents to meet mine. 30 FWIW
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Omg I’m 25 M and in the same boat- except it’s pressure for dating. My parents keep telling me to start dating someone ASAP, so that I can get married at 28 ish. But honestly, its getting to my head- their logic kinda makes sense and it’s stressing me out.
Why does marriage halt career progression...? Surely just find someone who wants you to excel? I’m looking to get married at around 23/24 but not have kids till I’m 27ish
Mck, I genuinely think you will feel differently once you’re in your mid/late twenties. Life in your mid/late 20s is at such an upswing, and kids will bring everything to a halt, especially career wise. I’m 28F, and having kids right now will completely change course of my life.
30M and in the same camp 😅
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First two words of the question reads Desi girls not Desi boys.
I think it is not about hurting accomplishments. I think 24 is an early age for marriage.I am not speaking for OP but this is my personal POV
I'm a 28 M but I can understand you. Just tell your parents that you are not ready for marriage as of now. Don't disrespect them but tell them your goals and see what they make out of it
Im 29F and yes have been dealing with the same for past several years. I moved a few states away from home and it has helped immensely in taking the constant pressure off.