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Desi guys look for american born desi girls or white girls for their American adventures or sought of to fulfill their American fantasies but when it comes to settling down, they go back to the age old "my parents want me to choose a girl from India" BS. Sick of it!

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Sure not all Desi guys act the way OP is describing but there is certainly a trend there, I think many girls can relate to OP's story either having experienced it personally or know someone who had that happen to them. In my experience I was completely blind sighted by someone who I thought I had a future with because he didn't have the balls to tell me straight up that he wasn't planning for a long term relationship. Now he's engaged to someone back in India that his parents wanted. It's definitely a prevalent enough trend that women are noticing. You guys say desi men are unfairly disadvantaged when it comes to dating, well these actions don't exactly help your case...

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I'm also thinking, don't get me work - marrying a girl from here also has the fringe benefit of getting green card soon :) plus if you Mary girls from India you will have to give a America 101 and other things. I absolutely liked this American girl that I met on CmB. She liked me but she is also in touch with her ex fiancée. It felt very awkward , would a normal thing in the American culture .. but it was super wired. So, point being..OP- dunno why guys who date some1 from here and then marry a girl from india.. if things work out with a American nice sensible girl... That is the real American dream 😀😀😀😀

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I agree EY2! Setting expectations up front (which shouldn't be difficult for us at all lol) is so important! I mean, totally sucks to wrong the other person! Karma is a bitch and will come back and bite the person for sure anyway, but you end up hurting the person in the process nonetheless!

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It's pretty funny. OP: "you need to have a large enough data sample to form a conclusion. Analytics 101!" Same OP: " this happened to one friend. All desi guys are like this" 🙄

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Literally every single time I see an Indian guy with a white girl, they are super serious until he decides to finally give in to his mom and marry someone she approves of. I'm sure this isn't always the case but it's prevalent enough to be a legit sample. Indian guys will generally do what pleases their mom, so white girls make sure to curry favor with ma

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D2, balls. I'll answer your generalizing with another: I tried dating Indian girls for several years. Kept getting hurt by their materialistic tendencies, and consistent focus on image rather than being genuine. Turned elsewhere and am now happily married to a non-desi, with complete parental support, and couldn't dream of anything else. We're also best buddies with 5 other couples of a similar mix. By your logic, my sample size beats yours, no? (Yes, I'm using the spurious nature of my analysis to counter yours :))

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What's wrong in that?

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A desi guy can do what ever the hell he wants. Who are you to say what he has to do?

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EY3- me too mate ;) relax

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OP is acting feminazi here sorry to say.

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I've a big enough data sample and sorry to say you guys disappoint me everytime. There are girls who don't fall on the bracket and I agree, but your statement is patronizing, and sorry to say I need to stand for Desi guys here. We are infamous already. @pwc1 GTFO lol.

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Wow never seen desi guys in so much demand #unreal

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OP- a good prop of desi guys (born & raised in India) are fed a twisted, sex crazed image of American women in their first 20 years, that sticks to the sub conscience I guess (not scientifically backed). Also your post reeks of generalization, I know quite a few happy desi/white couples. Maybe it's just you, ever wonder?

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That's awesome for you, I'm glad you've found happiness, but OP isn't just making this up, it happens frequently whether you want to admit it or not.

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And that actually made my point, your parents approved so you committed, not all desi parents are so willing

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D2, I think the point I proved was that not all Indian guys fall into the stereotype you described. And to clarify my parents' decision - they trusted me to make my own decision and stood by me no matter what. Not exactly what you were suggesting. Still, I understand what you said and politely disagree. There's a lot of drama around some Indian men who act like you said, but I don't believe there is enough empirical evidence to suggest it's a theme and not an outlier. Thanks for being civil about your point, though - glad to have a normal discussion about something instead of name-calling and stomping one's foot (ahem, OP?)

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Talk about double standards

It just depends on the girl too OP: your's is a very siloed statement. Sometimes these American girls back off saying they can't deal with the india part. Sometimes desi guys get scared of dealing with a America family and back off too. I have seen some friends marrying girls from here and are very happy. It just depends on a case to case basis. Dating a girl and trying to marry a girl .. these are 2 different topic, if you'd been in the game you'll get it

OP- I totally hear you! I'm a male, but know several folks who do this and it absolutely pisses me off! Such freakin double standards! I mean, how can they not be sure of that earlier and why the hell do they wrong the girl, ridiculous!

Sorry to hear this OP. Hope you're doing better now?

Just saying for a friend 😏. Its utterly disgusting- all fake promises

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