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Did anyone find themselves feeling disconnected with husband post baby? New mom here. Feel like my husband and I hardly talk of anything other than the baby and her daily needs. In case we ever do, we always end up fighting. Feeling unsure whether our relationship will last. I know the root of the problem is that we don’t get much time for each other. But just wanting to know if this somewhat normal, or should I be prepared for the worst.

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In the same boat as you. It is SO HARD. Over-communicating seems to help our relationship when times are rough - eg “i said this because i was feeling xyz in that moment,” “I wish you would’ve reacted in abc way to support me rather than 123”

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This is soo us! I totally know what you mean!

How long has it been? If you are both sleep deprived it is easy for tempers to be shorter. Until baby is sleeping well I wouldn’t think about the worst case scenario and try to just give each other grace. I would also suggest switching off giving each other a night off a week from childcare to do some alone time or self care or talking to friends. You have to give yourself something to talk about other than baby, work, and the endless bad pandemic news. If you can survive a baby, a pandemic, and being cooped up all the time together, you will probably be able to make it through anything.

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Sooooo normal. Especially with covid

We just had our second Baby a few months ago and stuff is tough... but we both know this is a really hard season and we will work to get out of it.

Perfectly normal. Its tough dealing with the sleep deprivation, a new schedule, and the changes that naturally happen when learning how this little person fits into your family life. My husband and I struggled the first year with both kids, but in the moment we mutually understood we just needed time to redefine ourselves and our relationship. Our youngest is 6 now and our relationship/communication is stronger than ever.

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