Did you breastfeed your baby in front of your in laws? I’m from a country where breastfeeding in public/in front of family and friends etc is totally normal, but trying to understand the situation in USA....

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I would say you do whatever is comfortable for YOU. I would announce if I had visitors that I was feeling the baby and the men who didn’t want to see or who were uncomfortable would evacuate the room 🤣 but I don’t think YOU should have to cover or leave the room unless YOU want to. It’s hard enough being a mom without having to accommodate everyone else. It should be completely normal but here in the US is people are totally cool with women in string bikinis but feeding a baby is taboo in “public”

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Yes, but wore a nursing cover. You will likely get a wide range of answers, people have different levels of comfort and it does seem a little more taboo in the US. You do you.

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I have my whole boob out in front of MIL. I’ll maybe drape a blanket if FIL is there. I don’t give a shit- it’s about my comfort not theirs.

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I just dont breastfeed in front of my father or my father in law. Or any men i know, honestly. Everyone else is fine.
My thought - Knowing how sexually attracted to my engorged breasts my husband is, i dont want to give any thoughts even for a second to the men i know.

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I was personally uncomfortable with the thought of breast feeding (and pumping) in front of my MIL. I told my husband before she came for a visit that I was uncomfortable with the idea, but I guess he never relayed the message bc she would always barge in to talk to me anyway. 🙄

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Omg!!! Exactly my MIL 🙄

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It depends. First two months of his life were all FT / zoom calls and he was eating so often. So my husband was filming me breastfeeding (with no cover) to his parents and sister / brother in law. My mom comes over now and I breastfeed in front of her. I wear a cover in front of his parents in person. But I was so used to being alone and breasts out all the time, bc of the pandemic, so I didn’t really care about modesty. More important for the grandparents to see him and talk to us.
For reference, our parents are all immigrants - his from Central America and my mom from Eastern Europe; they’ve been here for decades and we were born here.

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I personally don't breastfeed in front of my parents of in-laws, but don't mind doing it in public with strangers around 😄 (I always have a nursing top on then so there's hardly any exposure though)

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Same here. My parents are weirdly Puritanical people though 🤣 in laws more progressive but I still can’t get over that mental hurdle.

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Thank you all for the encouragement and the great advice of doing what I feel is the best. What a fantastic support group!

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In front of my mom, yes, but not my MIL or FIL. I personally felt uncomfortable doing it in front of them, but they never said anything to me about it.

Totally agree, though, you do you. If you are comfortable, go ahead. I do think culturally we are at a place where your in laws would feel more uncomfortable asking you to stop than actually seeing it.

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Yes. Though I am more comfortable with my in laws than my own family. I won’t be breastfeeding in front of my dad when he visits. My uncle in law is also a pediatrician and helped with breastfeeding in the beginning.

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Yes I breastfeed in front of anyone who comes over and out in public as well. At first I was uncomfortable fearing that there would be exposure but practiced at getting more discreet. It’s helped with wearing an tank top underneath and shirt over so there’s shirt coverage everywhere but the nipple, which is covered by the baby’s mouth. Sometimes my daughter will flail though I often cover her head loosely with the shirt too. Similar to what others have said, I think it’s up to you what you’re comfortable with.

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In front of women yes, definitely not in front of my dad or father in law

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Same. Also extended to my brother despite the fact that he is a physician and has seen all kinds of body parts-more of a me thing

Yes.

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Yes I did.

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Yes. My rule was that if you’re uncomfortable you can leave my house or go to another room.

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I nursed in front of anyone with a cover or blanket draped over me to be as modest as I could be. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I EBF for 18 months and I soon ran out of patience for always having to go sit in a room by myself. Eventually my daughter would be too distracted if others were in the room so I’d nurse in private for her sake. But I didn’t care about other people. Honestly you see more in a bikini than you do nursing so 🤷🏼‍♀️

I always left the room and went to the nursery when anyone was around

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