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Divorced twice … I chose wrong. This career will not fulfill you; I recommend prioritizing life and not follow the path laid before by this career

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Woman partner here with a kid.

Have I ever felt like that? Yes and you have to make these choices in the moment daily, but that is not the same as THE choice.

The financial freedom our role provides helps being able to balance being a parent and having a demanding career A LOT. It is still on you to prioritize things appropriately. There will absolutely be things you will not be able to do exactly when you want. There will be times you will have to say no to. There will be times you will feel guilty and perhaps even as a failure. Both professionally and personally.

BUT that will happen anyway. That is life. We do not live in the world of absolutes. There are very few situations in life where one choice, one decision prohibits you from doing something else ever again. You balance, your prioritize, you make mistakes, you learn, you adapt.

If you want to have kids, I would encourage you to have kids. You will figure out everything else. You will not be perfect, but that’s ok - who is?!

Good luck.

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Yup. And it is too much to juggle. The question is whether you can find a job that makes you fulfilled enough at work while being present enough with family. I don’t think being a partner is likely to be that role, at least for moms. Most of the mom-partners I know feel like they’re failing at one or both (home/work) and that they have nothing left for themselves. I took a step back when I had my first, and I was so hesitant to give up what I’d worked for, moving into a new role that wouldn’t be partner-eligible. I’m now pregnant with my second, and I haven’t regretted it for even a day.

Choose what’s right for YOU.

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Same - no regrets and loving this new role which is still mentally stimulating but FAR less stressful!

Never. Not only do I go to all of their games and recitals, I go to a lot of their practices.

It tracked with their ages, in my experience. When they were very small, I was away a lot. The older they got, the more I managed my schedule around them. Being a more senior partner allows you that flexibility. The dirty secret is that they need you less when they’re very small. 10-plus and beyond is when you need to be more present. The baby stage is for you; adolescence is for them.

But it’s about how you’re wired more than the job. Some people pretend they are about family and work life balance when they’re really not. One thing the job can do is train you to make the job primary. It’s like an addiction. If you can’t separate doing what you need to do to be in a place where you have that flexibility with doing the job, you’re lost. I killed myself to get it the place where I could have that, but never lost track of the why.

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Tell that to this partner’s wife, I bet she would disagree

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Pick the kids every time. People do this all the time and you figure out how to balance it.

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Gave up on having another child. Trying to make peace with not giving my child a sibling

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You have one life to live and growing old gets pretty lonely without a family.

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If you want to reproduce, then do that.

Everyone makes this choice every day. Literally every day. It’s not something you do once and never revisit.

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