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Hubs will be fine. Baby in your room is best for the first couple of months. YOU need to be getting the rest you need just as much as hubs. I don’t say that in a way to be disrespectful to men with useless nipples, but if you can keep some consistency in your life and rest that’s preferable. He’ll adjust, and you’ll enjoy sleeping beside him
Baby slept in our room for 6.5 months. Husband was in this as much as me, so we took turns getting up (husband fed baby pumped breast milk starting week 2). Husband would do all wake-ups before 2AM, I would cover all wake-ups after 2AM. The goal was that each of us gets 4 straight hours at some point each night. Husband is naturally a night owl, so late feedings suited him. He also went back to work week 2.
It’s not like you’re going to get rest on mat leave & need less sleep than your husband. Arguably, you’ll need more rest as you recover from birth. Recovery can be really tough, and I underestimated how hard it would be. Get as much rest as you can, & split the worry you have for your husband’s sleep with your own. You will both be exhausted.
My husband and I did this as well - split shifts for overnight. I pumped and we supplemented with formula, so we’d do 100% formula overnight. I still had to get up in the night to pump, even if baby didn’t need me, but at least I got as much as I could. Sleep is so important even though it’s scarce at this stage - your husband should help shoulder the load as he can to help you get sleep too.
My husband had no issues sleeping through nighttime feedings with baby in our room 🤦♀️😜
Agreed with everyone else. This is a team effort. Baby slept in our room until about 5 months. You need sleep too. I had a similar arrangement to EY2- we had my husband feed expressed breast milk until about 12am, then I took the middle of night feedings. He picked up any that happened in the AM before work (7am-8:30am) so I could sleep
We had the baby sleep in his own room from day 1. We keep the monitor on all night. My SO honestly barely hears him at all, through the monitor & even when we are traveling and the baby sleeps in our room. Also, you are the one giving birth and going to be utterly exhausted from recovering and feeding the baby - focus on what you need (especially the first few weeks).
We kept baby #1 in the room for the first 8 weeks. Then we moved her out because she was too disruptive to my sleep and even my sleep routine (e.g., I want to get in bed and read for a few min.... not sneak into my bedroom and try to crawl under the covers to avoid waking a sleeping baby). With #2 I think we’ll aim for 4 weeks in our room and then make a call. Don’t let everyone tell you “oh it’s best for the baby”— you also have to do what’s best for you!
Your husband isn’t even going to notice the baby in the room. They miraculously sleep through everything while you’ll wake up at the sound of a slight cough for the next 5 years 🙄
Indeed some men are really able to sleep through it... That being said you will need rest - probably more than your husband - as the first weeks are really exhausting. Mine was changing our son so I didn’t have to get up.
My husband was a much lighter sleeper than me and I thought we would disturb him when he went back to work too but... No. He rarely woke up when she cried, it would only be if I woke him up to take care of her or just lied there waiting to see how long it would take for him to notice. I honestly think the sound machine we used for the baby helped him sleep like a rock.
Don't plan to move yourself or the baby until you really know how it impacts your family. Keep the baby in your room so you can both help take care of him/her. I'd never been more sleep deprived in my life than in those first months so sleep is equally important to you too. (Sleep when the baby sleeps is nice in theory but I was rarely ever able to execute during the day)
We planned for the baby to sleep in his room but that didn’t work out. I need to breast feed at night every two three hours and find it so much easier to have him sleep with me in my bed. I will just feed him while laying on one side. Now that he can do longer stretch of sleep, he is sleeping in his crib now. Sleep is a luxury the first two months regardless of what you do. You can do what you think is best but remember it can always change. Be flexible
Play it by ear. See how it's going. It's almost comical how some dads don't wake to the sound of a crying baby. Have a crib ready in another room, but you don't have to plot that switch yet.