Dilemma: I was friends with a couple that broke up in 2020, known them both since college but closer to the woman. She and I have been talking and hanging since their breakup and gotten closer, and she shared a lot of her frustrations about her ex.

I left a comment on ex's IG and we started chatting about life. He wants to hang (def not a date) and we are still friends, just not as close. Also, both of them work in the industry.

Should I tell my friend that I had coffee with her ex?

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Yeah keep it all open. And have a talk with them both where you let them know that you’re still in contact with the other but that you’ll respect the privacy of each

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Agreed - if you hide it, it becomes a bigger deal than it is. Hopefully neither of them puts you in a position where you have to choose if you’ve all been friends for ages but I do think it’s tough to not let it affect your friendship. Especially if the split was messy.

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