Divorced fish - any advice how to get through this really tough time? Process starting now. Thanks all!

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If you have any children, treat your partner with respect. Seeing a parent be awful to another really killed my respect for them and now I never speak to that parent because if I do, it’s like I condone their actions. It’s an awful position.

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My parents got divorced when I was 7. Worst experience for me, being in the middle of all the bashing. They now respect one another and are pretty cool with one another. But those times scar you for life and impact the child’s ability to love someone. Please be respectful if you have children, it hurts them so much.

Exercise. Get out of the house. Meet your true friends. I spend a lot of time sleeping and felt like I had zero energy for quite some time. Was finally able to pull myself out of the funk. Spending time with true friends helps. Don't wallow in self pity.

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Sorry to hear that OP. Stay strong

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Get thee to a therapist. Divorce is an emotional roller coaster and finding someone where you can let it all hang out and process it with will help you now and set you up for success in your next relationships.

I also read a book that helped me tremendously, The Divorce Remedy, by Michele Weiner-Davis. It was recommended by another fish. While the stated goal of the book is to try to mend the broken relationship, the bulk of the book is about self reflection and choices and she even allows for deciding the relationship isn’t worth saving once you have worked on yourself and reflected on what you want. Worth checking out, especially if seeing “your next relationships” in writing hit you like ice cold water to the face.

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Thanks all. No children or house. It was less than 5 years. Appreciate the kind words too

Been there my fellow fish. Every situation is different and carries with it a unique set of circumstances. I’ll say this - you got to his end for a reason. Be patient with yourself and don’t be too hard on yourself

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