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☹️ damn, this post tugs on the heart strings.
I’m not divorced (or married yet for that matter), but my SO has been divorced before. From what little he tells me about it, it took him a long time to get back to “normal.” Ive been through bad breakups, so I imagine it’s like that x1000000, but there is a light at the end of the tunnel and that’s happiness again. Take it day by day and focus on you instead of what the relationship used to be. It ended for a reason and you can and will be happy again.
Pick-up some hobbies, get with some friends and family, so what’s best for YOU right now.
Yes actually I did. I did try everything to bring my partner to see things differently. All for the family because we have one child. At the end I know im better off (much higher salary, better social connections and greater job flexibility) to restart. But I keep looking at the years spent together as a waste, no matter how many good times we had, if it was meant to end like this. I know that is not a constructive and healthy way to look at it but i cant get that thought out of my head
Enthusiast
Your feelings are all valid. It’s okay not to be okay. I’d spend this time to hangout with the people you love. You support system can help lift you up but you need to be open and willing to receive help. Talk it out, cry if needed, journal every day. You will see how magical it is to meet the new version of yourself on the other side, 6-12 months from now. Best of luck and sending you so much love!!
Rising Star
Lots to unwrap here . Sounds like you were against the divorce . Do you have kids ?
Journaling helped a lot. I didn’t have the money for a therapist or person I could trust to hear me say the same thing day after day. Eventually you write less and when you read it again you so want to embrace the broken person you once were. The challenge is to put the pieces together without the bitterness and resentment.
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Give yourself time to heal. I thought I was doing really well, then Valentine’s Day came around, and while I don’t care about it usually, I cried at nothing that day. I’ve focused on getting back to doing the things I enjoy that I stopped doing as much when I was with my ex husband. You have more to consider, since you have a child to care for as well as yourself. I haven’t done it, but if you’re really struggling, therapy is a good option too.
Rising Star
Make sure you are amicable when it comes to raising your child and coparenting.
For me it was starting to build a life. I got sober, became responsible, cleaned up the wreckage of my life, got in to therapy. All of these had a big impact on my life and the more I made progress the further away the pain was. It's not easy, but if you're not moving towards something IMHO the pain will always be right there next to you.
I had 2 years worth of therapy. It’s a tough thing to go through. I suffered from depression because of it. Once I got through therapy, I surrounded myself with positive thinking people that motivated me to look forward, time moves forward and not to dwell on the past, but learn from it.