Divorced mom (no travel) 1 yr ago. Separated 3. I’m starting to think abt dating but I had married my second boyfriend & lack dating exp. On bumble. Rebound vs. relationship? Miss friendship & trust

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Sounds like a few sessions of therapy to work out all these feelings and what dating may mean to you currently could be really helpful and give you some much needed clarity and confidence. Good luck OP!

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Do you feel ready? That’s the ultimate question. And what do you want out of these apps? Casual or serious? Thinking thru what you want is a good starting point. Recently divorced and dating right now. DM me if you wanna chat more :)

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Thank you! Will DM!

This all depends on what YOU feel ready for. Been on Bumble and it has led to one relationship and several stints. A lot of guys who don’t know what they want. I’ve had better luck on CMB. I met and am dating a mature guy that I met there. Good luck!

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Need to look up CMB. I don’t know what I want yet to be honest. I think I have unresolved issues and am not ready for a relationship, but at the same time, I want the courtship (not just hook up)

A1, I had the exact same thought. OP, if you miss trust, you may want to do some self work first. Post-divorce we all have some baggage (and sometimes fleas).

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Great points. With trust I meant, ability to share who I am without needing to impress. I have been working on self acceptance the whole time of separation and divorce, and now I find myself judging myself. I don’t want to slip back

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