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I had a bf years ago who would go out and party. I was in consulting at the time (and still am now) so I couldn’t go all the time, and like you, I was a bit more of a homebody and not much of a drinker. Ultimately we broke up because we weren’t meant for each other, there were lots of things and that was probably one of them. He was living with me in my home and coming back at whatever time he wanted. At the end he was like, “you should have told me that I couldn’t do that” and my response was that I’m not a babysitter or his mother so he needs to be able to make good decisions on his own. This was my experience and hopefully it’s helpful for you. ⭐️
Thanks for sharing! I’m figuring that out now. He has cut back for me, and he communicates when he will be home, but it bothers me how much time he must spend with friends/drinking. Find a hobby dude...
Rising Star
...shouldn’t you be partying together?
Hmm, I’m less concerned about the time we spend together, but more can you find other more productive things to do...
Conversation Starter
I’m the more out going one of the two in my relationship! My SO is introverted, so I’m very mindful of this. I always ask him if he’d like to join, and if he turns the invitation down, no worries. 😄 Plus, the older I get (I say that as I’m in my early 20’s lol), the more “going out” becomes less appealing. I’m always down to celebrate for a reason (birthday, holidays, friend coming into town, etc), but the notion of “going out just for the hell of it” feels so tiring. Maybe I just partied too hard in college 😂
He has cut back for sure, but I’m out of town this weekend, and all he’s doing is being out/drinking. I just wish he was more productive with his time! Thanks for suggestion. We’ve had many discussions, hoping things get better.
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My bf and I met partying and we still do it together years later. Sometimes I don’t wanna go anymore but I wouldn’t feel comfortable telling him to stay home. Being controlling never works. If that’s what he enjoys doing i don’t think you can change that and it could cause resentment from both sides.
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Yay great!