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Do any of you wish you had kids sooner or had more kids but aged out? Almost 33 and worrying if I’m operating with a false sense of confidence vs. Mother Nature’s plans…

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Yes! But I didnt meet my husband until 32, so idk how we could have got it together before 35. Would have definitely been nice to have a little sooner and met earlier but that’s life.

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Nope. Enjoyed married life for 5 years and don’t regret it at all.

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Almost 30 and have 1 baby. Don’t think I could’ve handled this any younger

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had my third at 41. it is nice being able to afford what i want for my kids without worrying about money and paying my bills. It is a lot easier now then when i had my first in my 20’s.

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Agree with you on money, definitely couldn't have afforded a baby in my 20s. However, I wish I still had the energy of my 20s at my disposal for this haha

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Nope! had my first kid november 2019, two weeks after my 38th birthday! (Considered geriatric pregnancy 😂) No regrets whatsoever - more financially stable, emotionally ready and able to move from consulting if needed to, while still progressing career and even open to career change than when i was younger. Am I planning to have a second? Maybe, but not going to stress about it if we don’t. All in all, wouldn’t have it any other way. Everyone is different so try not to stress and take it as it comes.

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Just had my first and turning 34 in a few weeks. It took me <6mos to get pregnant with OPKs and temping. I never wanted more than 2 and might be one and done. Stats show that if you might want 2, best to start by 35. IMO the best time to start trying is when you feel mostly physcially, financially, emotionally, maritally (if partnered) and professionally able to weather it and WANT a baby.

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It’s different for everyone, but on the off-chance it renews your faith: I am 33 and now 38wks pregnant with my first. We started trying at 32.5 almost exactly for me… I really expected it to be a long effort and to find myself looking for fertility help. 3mo later, we were pregnant, nothing more than ovulation tracking. That said, my little sister (2y younger) tried for over a year about 2 yrs ago (so late 20s) and had no luck. I also know lots of women who’ve been through treatment or lost babies, so it’s not easy for everyone. We were extremely lucky. I think there are actually a lot of people who don’t have issues but we’re afraid to talk about it because we all know women who have struggled and want to show some compassion for that situation. Just another perspective to consider. ❤️

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I agree. I’m extremely thankful that I never had fertility issues but I want to be sensitive to those that do. I got pregnant month 2 with baby #1 (at 32) and month 1 with baby #2 (at 34). My understanding is fertility doesn’t really start to drop significantly until 37ish (assuming no other exist fertility challenges).

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Yes I did, I will be 34 in two months and expecting my first any moment now. Bunch of reasons, I struggled with fertility issues for two years some might b age, I lost my parent and fil wish my son had grand fathers to play with, I get tired easily do not sure I have the energy to play with my son as much I could have in the past. However, the financial security and job seniority is good.

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Yes and no - i got pregnant with my first at 33. I would love to have a ton of kids but don’t even want to be pregnant again. I wish i had kids when i was in my 20s because of the energy i had then and because my body was so much easier to maintain control of… if i decided to change my weight, increase muscle, develop flexibility etc, i could easily do it. I sat on the floor the other day and had to strategize how i got back up lol. At the same time, financially i wasn’t ready. I also wasn’t ready emotionally. I had little patience for people in my life. I don’t know that I would have been the best mom because i was pretty selfish in my 20s and there was so much i wanted to do/accomplish - i don’t know that i would have prioritized a family the way you really need to.

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To clarify - I’ve not lost my ambitious nature as a mom. If anything, i feel more driven towards success now that i have a baby. But I’ve become better at setting work/life boundaries in my 30s. I’m more decisive about how i use my “work” time. Even pre-baby, i learned so many lessons about bending over backwards to make things work out of fear that if i would miss out on opportunities. In my 30s i started valuing myself and my contributions in a more positive way. Basically - they are coming to me because of my track record, i don’t have to neglect other areas of my life to prove my value in the workplace. I can set the pace. I was not inclined to do that when i was younger and my kid would have suffered. Or my mental health would have. Or more likely both ….

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Married at 24, didn’t have kids with my husband until 34. We really enjoyed our 10 years of partying, traveling, and working our asses off. We are very lucky we have two healthy kids now pretty soon after trying. No regrets about starting when we did (more $$$, okay with chilling at our current career levels, got the partying out of our systems :))

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33 and 35 and absolutely would have loved to have kids sooner. It’s hard when you’re older. Most of my friends had kids in their 20s and I only wish I’d met my husband by then! So much more life to enjoy and build memories as a family. (I was 31 when we got married).

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I had my kids at 32 and 35. I feel like the timing worked out really well for me since I only wanted 2 kids. If I had wanted 4 kids, that would be tough because pregnancy at 35 was harder and I’m sure pregnancy at 40 is even tougher. No regrets for me, but I know I’m also lucky and didn’t have issues getting pregnant.

Had my first at 35 and I initially felt like I waited too long because we wanted 3 kids and I felt like I had to have them closer together than I might have wanted…but once I had 2 I realized that in reality I wouldn’t want to have them any further apart regardless. So no regrets for me, but had I had any challenges getting pregnant I would have felt differently.

Had mine at 33 and 35 and considering more. Now 36 and when I go to OBs in New York City they tell me how young I am. Most moms here with kids the same ages are in their mid to late 30s (but my high school friends in other parts of the country all had kids in their 20s), so it matters where you are what's considered normal. The one thing I would say is if you do have trouble getting pregnant, go get help sooner rather than later. We got help after only 6 months trying with our first and were pregnant 10 months after we started trying even though we did have fertility issues. If you're in your mid 30s, don't wait 1-2 years before seeking help.

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