Do desi couples stay in love after a decade of marriage? I feel I am around for kids. It’s just a little apathy and a lot of not able to understand each other. We both are good with kids and they are young. We hang out together with the kids but lately have had very little to connect as adults. Is this common?

One of my friends had a breakdown because I am more successful and she is intimidated that I am friends with her boyfriend (we were friends before she came along). Should I try to save the friendship?

Looking for advice on personal space in a relationship. Been in thus relationship for 6 months. I date here and there but have not been in a serious relationship in a long time. Been working late M-F since COVID started. I usually call my gf after work or before I go to sleep and we talk for an hr or so each night. And on Fridays I go to her place right after work and stay the weekend. I’m finding a lack of my own time because it’s either work or her throughout the week and weekends...

Is your partner your best friend too? Or should they? In my case, they are 2 different people and it’s hard to manage their expectations

Anyone else really feeling the social isolation this weekend? It’s been almost a month since I saw another person (re-entering more stringent lockdowns where I am) and not being able to see family for the holidays is hitting hard. The break from work was much needed, but made me realize work is the most consistent contact I have with people (phone calls/chat messages during the day) and without it I somehow feel more alone. Fck this year!!!

Ladies, did you change your last name after getting married? I’m worried about the impact it will have on my publications.

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

My ex cheated on me. We dated for 2 years . I been suffering from bad panic attacks since the break up . Any suggestions on healing ? (No I will not hook up with randos )

About to be a new dad. Starting to look into childcare but feeling a little overwhelmed. Would love to hear thoughts/opinions on what to look for besides convenience.

AITA? If my SO of 1 year wants to get a dog, do I get an opinion? We don’t live together

Anyone have a spouse/partner who is a picky eater?

I grew up with two french bodybuilders for parents and enjoy super minimally seasoned, whole, unprocessed foods (yes, we were the weird house for not having goldfish as kids), and I live with my handsome man from a beautiful Mexican family who cook with many flavors but also eat out a LOT.

He is okay about my cooking as it is 90% veggies, but some nights he’s blunt that he’s picky, and I whine about going out. Thoughts?

Not a wedding planning questions, but, when did you know you were gonna propose to your now husband/wife? My partner and I love each other, know we are going to marry, we even discussed the party and honey moon, but we are in no rush. We don’t feel like it’s time just yet.
I wonder how the “ok, it’s time to ask” moment went for other couples - just because I love to hear these stories.

Man, "What? I'm in a meeting?"
Woman, "Did you leave the refrigerator door open again?"
Man, "I can't right now I'm in a meeting, can you close it"
Woman, "Please, make sure it's shut, how many times do I have to tell you. My breast milk is in there, I'm already taking care of one child I don't need another. I'm not your mother!"
Planner,"Hey man, we wanted to tell you but I guess you couldn't hear us. Your camera was off but you weren't on mute.'

Worst part of living with your partner?

Any tips for hard launching partners on social media? For context, I’ve (Indian American female) been dating my white American boyfriend for 3 years and we just got engaged after two years of convincing my parents. They are very happy and excited now, but I’m scared shitless about being ostracized / judged by my extended family and Indian community in the US once I “let the cat out of the bag” on the engagement news. I want to be proud and confident about this but could use some moral support.

Girlfriend and I flew in to see her dad who is in the hospital today after surgery. She is visiting him in the hospital, and I am alone in her parents home. Is it inconsiderate if I go out with some friends who I know live here?

To those with an anxious attachment style and have trust issues due to past childhood trauma you’re still healing from: How do you keep yourself from thinking your significant other is going to cheat on you when she/he goes to a party or out while you’re miles away? I’ve been in therapy to help, and trying to distract myself but my anxiety is keeping it from working and don’t want to put that pressure on him because I’m trying to work on it.

A student of mine committed suicide this summer.. I am still struggling with her death. I feel like I don’t have the desire to help students because I couldn’t help her.

New to Phoenix! 30 year old consultant. Ideas on how to make friends? 😁

Hi fishes how is wlb in mphasis?

Hi Fishes,

How is Capgemini in terms of wlb ? I am offered a position of band D1. What are the roles and responsibilities of a senior manager in Capgemini? Are IC’s role categorised under D1 ?

How long should it take to put together a closing set? (M&A)

At what temperature does the Canada goose come out? Asking for a … friend

Any book recommendations? Mid 20s interested in health, neuropsychology, finance, leadership, and Christianity

I have so many things that I want in a house. Open layout, high ceiling, nice view from the backyard, prestigious neighborhood… one thing that I surprised myself with is that I want a house in a prestigious neighborhood, even though what I can afford is the entry-point price in this neighborhood. Am I being irrational?

Any Pms out there making over 200k

Just saw an opening in my company that I’m interested in applying to. Any tips on how to make my case ? (I just started a job in June due to COVID)

Do partners (equity partner) generally required to take pay cut to join industry?

Johnson controls is good company to work for? In terms of employees friendly

... (hired) now their HR are saying they don't know when open enrollment will be until November 1st. Is this a run around or what? Wouldn't an HR depth know exactly when the window of open enrollment will be? It's already the end of Sept.

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Not a wedding planning questions, but, when did you know you were gonna propose to your now husband/wife? My partner and I love each other, know we are going to marry, we even discussed the party and honey moon, but we are in no rush. We don’t feel like it’s time just yet.
I wonder how the “ok, it’s time to ask” moment went for other couples - just because I love to hear these stories.

Hi FIshes ,
I am looking for React And Redux devs for 2 positions. Candidates should be very good at Architectures, designing the solution and SOLID pricinples.

1. Team Lead (8+ years)
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Desi Family, need some serious advice on prioritizing my problems and coming up with a plan.
-Wife is 6 months pregnant, it’s been a challenging pregnancy
- Both her parents are 60+ and we’ve asked them to NOT travel to the US because of CV-19
- She is scheduled for a hand surgery this week and will need ~8 weeks to recover
- We live in a small 1 BDRM in Manhattan and don’t have enough space for cooking or laundry
- She has a brother and sis-in-law in NJ, but SIL has been acting weird since th

H1B folks - I have been let go and looking for a new job. Anyone has experience recruiting for European/ Canadian offices from the US? How should I go about it and how challenging was navigating the visa process?

Best tandoori place in New York City, would love a hole in the wall but middle tier restaurants are fine doesn’t need to be over three dollars on Yelp.

Reviews on Amber in SF? Will it be awkward to go there alone?

Canada thread - folks who moved up north can you share your last US city, Base + bonus in USD, Company, Canadian city you moved to and CAD salary, company? Challenges and successes?

I feel like I’m one of the only American-born Indians who is actually religious and enjoys going to the temple

After reading the discussions on this bowl for some time, there's something I want to share. There's a lot of criticism of Modi, Indian govt, Hindu Nationalism etc here. A lot of it is for good reason.

If like me you get defensive about these, tell yourself that (most) of it isnt anti-India, or hatred for India. It feels that way since our idea of India has become liked to 'Hindu'. Most are anti-Modi precisely because they love India. Just something that helps me think more rationally. Peace.

Anyone here has used Saregama Carvaan and comment on if the product is good? Looks perfect and I am thinking of gifting one to my parents.

Hi everyone, I am getting married soon and my family has told me that I cannot do a first look with the bride and can only see her after the baraat is over and the wedding is about to begin. There’s no religious or cultural reasoning that they provided but I wanted to see if this is normal. We’re both Hindu for reference. As this has thrown off our plans, I wanted to see if this is normal / not unheard of. Can you share your thoughts? Thanks in advance

Me, an ABD who only follows the NBA and NFL reading all the cricket posts this week: 👁👄👁

Anyone got global entry?

Justice for Sushant Singh Rajput ❤️❤️❤️ May he inspire us all to be more brave, courageous, and learned.