Do Indian parents pay for the engagement ring?

My parents want to (they think it's normal), but feels kinda weird growing up in US.

Thoughts?

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They pay for a lot more than just engagement rings. If you know what I mean.

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Why are they only paying for the ring? Most pay for the ring, clothes, wedding ceremony, attendee gifts, the honeymoon, and the kids’ first birthdays.

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I guess that is normal. Many families make it an event almost - entire families going together to buy them. You should however tell them you want to pay for it yourself. Me and my then bf were in US and bought our engagement and wedding bands ourselves. My dad was happy he didn’t have to pay 😂

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it depends..there is nothing customery or rule to do that. some parents who are well to do want to do it just out of love for their child . many others who are not so good financially may not initiate first but may still arrange if child says so. either ways if you are capable of doing that yourself you should do that. Plz note this is from a north indian family perspective. other parts of india may hugely differ

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Traditionally the guy’s parents/family pays for the ring. These days it isn’t unusual for the guy to buy it with his own money (especially if the marriage is love and not arranged). I paid for most of my wedding given some unusual family financial circumstances, and think this adapts based on what the financial and relationship situation is with each person’s family. My wife’s parents pretty much paid for all her expenses and wedding events, and in her situation she was barely making money in her first job. Hope this helps

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Lol I wish my parents felt the same but they are broke AF (due to their own fault and not planning for retirement). I would’ve taken the engagement money and put it towards a down payment for a house!

And unless you’ve walked in my shoes, I’d rather you stay out of my relationship or my comment surrounding my parents.

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Husband to be should buy it. I didnt expect my parents would pay for that since the wedding was going to be expensive.

This feels weird, I’m not sure why. As an F, I’d rather pay for my own ring than have my fiancé’s parents pay for it if my fiancé can’t afford the ring I want. Makes more sense for them to pitch in for the wedding IMO, given they probably want to invite a lot of people themselves.

My parents did. It’s all staying in the family anyway. We’re Indian, man. Everyone will be involved in everything, sometimes good sometimes bad.

Not married or engaged but it would be more special to me if my future husband (or us together) paid for it than his parents paying for it.

Also, if your parents want you to have an over the top expensive wedding then that’s on them financially. But if you want an over the top ring then that’s on the couple.

But also, if your/his parents want to pay for it and can afford to do so, then it’s something to consider. Trust me, I get the reasons against it. But also you refusing can cause problems between the families... idk? I think it really depends case-by-case.

I know so many different opinions lol.

Parents all over the world after to do that or have family engagement rings and wedding rings that they pass on. My close American friend got engaged and the parents chipped in for diamonds. So it depends on family. But F here and I would want to my parents to pitch in that money for my wedding rather than engagement ring.

I was in the same situation, I made a deal to pay 50% of it. They weren’t easy about it, but in the end it worked out

Ha! My parents didn’t even offer to pay for it

Indian Parents pay for the entire wedding as far as I know

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