Do my fellow desi folks cook all meals at home everyday? I spend so much time being in the cycle of planning, buying, cooking and cleaning and get very little time for self care and studying for some self development. What can I do to save me sometime in the kitchen. SO helps with a lot of stuff buts the whole process is still time consuming.

I love my friends but am really annoyed at how bad they are at making and communicating plans. I don’t want to hold it against them because I think they’ll learn and grow up one day (I’m 23). One thing in common that I noticed for the ones who suck is that they haven’t had full-time office jobs or any internships in undergrad. They haven’t really planned ahead to have something lined up after school. (Cont’d)

For the married folk, curious as to how you met your partner? Family setup or through dating? I know depending on cultures certain things are frowned upon so I’m curious 🤗

Sorry y'all, but I just have to put this into the universe! I wasted 10 years of my life on a man who did me so dirty! He literally told me I was his soulmate while he was cheating and got another woman pregnant. Fast forward 4 years later, I just married the love of my life. I found out that he called a mutual friend upset saying that he can't believe how bad he messed up. Call me petty but after everything he put me through, it makes my entire year that he's the one who's crying now!!! 🙌

Need advice.
I’ve met several friends through tinder, grindr, hinge. Strictly platonic friendships now. Have a boyfriend of 2 years who isn’t happy. Am I in the wrong for having those friends?

Dyslexia! After having our kindergartener son tested (privately) related to ADHD, we were told he may have dyslexia too (which would explain why he struggles so much with phonics but is amazing at sight words). He has a very high IQ. As a voracious reader, I am finding myself unexpectedly distraught that something that I have loved so much will be such a struggle for him, and worrying that it will affect his motivation and may steer him away from things he may otherwise love.
Tips/Commiseration?

My gf has a particular gift. To always choose the better dish when we're out. So we decided to choose for each other. And, not surprising, the dish i chose for her was still better. Should we break up?

How do you guys NOT bring stress from work home? I struggle not taking out work stress on my spouse

How to deal with aging parents when living in another state? I visit when I can but now in airport waiting to leave, feeling guilt and deep sadness.

How do you all manage to still plan fun dates? I’m an immigrant and grew up with very few friends due to a poor neighborhood, then only had time to work my butt off in my teens and early 20s. So, I never gained the dating and social skills of others. Somehow I managed to marry and love my wife but I SUCK at planning dates. Can only do so many restaurants, bars, and walks in the park 🥲

My mother in law is dying of cancer but is also a toxic person. My husband has mixed feelings around letting her dump all of her emotions that should be handled with a therapist on him. Beyond this,

Recently ended a 3+ yr relationship (were both mid 20s and living together for just under 2 years) bc of him buying an engagement ring yet not proposing and waffling about our future. After 2 weeks I brought up that there’s a lot of good in us that maybe worth trying to work on (counseling etc). He wants space first and asked me to not wait for him as he sorts out his emotions and “tries to be happy again” (COVID depression and 100hr work weeks). Then he’ll decide if he wants to try again

Cutting the cord on some friends who have no regard whatsoever for my preferences, sad at the same time thinking about how bleak ‘making new friends’ situation is in mid 30s #Broslost 😓

My wife's an artist and I'm an engineer, so I guess opposites really do attract sometimes

My parents (~60) are coming to town next week (and weekend) what can I do with them while keeping myself sane?

What are your favorite international destinations for traveling with kids? We are getting the travel bug, but trying to figure out something realistic with a 10-month old (likely will be closer to ~1.5 years when go this fall / winter). We're in the mid-west, so Europe, South America, Asia are all options, but have their own trade-offs (flight time, time zones, ease of logistics, safety/security, etc.).

Partners,

What's a relationship tip you swear by? My goal is to build a strong relationship with 2-3 folks in Financial Services in the coming year. I have a warm relationship with many, but kind of lost on turning it into a trusted advisor status.

Want to plan a romantic weekend with my SO. Suggestions near Boston? Hoping for something in nature where we could do easy hikes and spend time together without a lot of people around.

I teach PreK in a public school. Our state allows PreK programs to nap without masks if proper ventilation is provided. I have 16 children, a minimum of 3 feet apart, no masks, with two LOUD air filters, two tiny windows open, the outside and hall door open, at average in 72-76 degrees. What is your childcare classroom doing for rest time?

Yesterday my bf asked "how did you think a long term relationship with ANYONE was possible for you if your dreams are to travel to the next big city agency to boost your career?"

Dunno what to say...

Is NYU stern done evaluating?

Hey everybody, new here. But after reading through some of the post , I see that I am not the only one in the same boat. I’m in my 2 year as a teacher, currently a middle school math teacher. It was never my intention to begin with and I don’t mind it. I just know that’s not where my heart is. Anybody have similar experiences moving from teaching into another career such as something in finance. How would I even begin to break into the field with a degree in something not particularly related.

Anyone have a fi collar for their dogs? I used to put a tile tracker on mine just for peace of mind (he has pretty consistent recall and doesn’t stray far). Any other benefits/cons to consider for this? Or other types of tracker?

Need Suggestions:

Engineering manager vs Tech Architect?

YOE 9+ as backend developer.

Which path have growth in terms of compensation, learnings and opportunities ?

How much difference is there in salary between EM and architect ?

Anyone have a Bluetooth-compatible humidifier they can recommend? Thanks!!

We should start a pinned post for people to post watches for legitimacy input

Pretty sure my senior associate thinks I'm a complete moron and can't even figure out when to use past and present tense. First time doing a certain type of motion and I am getting every single thing wrong and their comments make me feel like an idiot

IBM or Globant for the Business Analyst role?

How's the work life balance at IBM for Business Analysts?

Any suggestions for apartments in Midtown? Looking for a safe building/area, budget is up to 1.8K but hope to spend more around 1.5-1.6K for a studio or 1BD.

Hi Fishes,

Need your suggestions. 39 LPA in India vs 70k GBP in London... Which one should I choose? Also please note that my wife is working in India and she is currently earning 32 LPA in India... She will need to search for a job if I move to London...

Lead associate is staff3 or Staff4 in Assurance?


Please reply 🙏

Do people serving notice period get increment letters?

I am currently serving notice period haven't received the letter as yet.

Anybody joined for sfdc recently?

Hey! I am really confused about which career path to take (strategy consulting or tech consulting). I love technology but don't want to spend my life coding. I like negotiating, talking to people and analysing, looking at the bigger picture. I like high pressure, high intensity with high return jobs.

I am not entirely sure if you get in which position I am but feel free to ask any questions...

Is there any advice you could give me to know how or where to start?

Hello Folks...
I am currently living in Hyderabad. Paying rent here 22+2k = 24k for 3 bhk flat ( 5 members in family)
I got an offer from an organisation , but it requires me to move to gurgaon.
My spouse has permanent wfh .
My current CTC is : 20L
Offered CTC in gurgaon is : 31L + relocation expenses
Since I have never been to gurgaon, hence i am trying to understand the cost of living in gurgaon also is it wise decision for me to move gurgaon?

Hi, all. I’ve accepted an offer from a firm. Though my joining is 2 months from now they’ve already sent me the onboarding portal link where I need to submit documents like form 11. Should I complete this process this early? Can the new company go ahead and create a pf account number with joining date earlier than my exit date from last firm (which I’ll provide in the form 11)

None of us are doing real jobs anymore. We are creating silly pantomimes for paper money in a plastic world to perpetuate the sale of needless consumer goods to fill the hollow spaces in our souls.

Someone in leadership gave me a tip for an open spot elsewhere. Applied and got contacted for further discussions. Bad to ask them for help with their connection at the agency?

Today’s events in the U.S. make me want to numb out, check out. Binging Russian Doll and eating chocolate.

Combined TC for spouse and I is 400K. No kids or debt. Live in HCOL city but feel expenses are getting out of hand, monthly expenses (including rent) is 6.5K. Looking for ideas on budgeting.

Folks, has anyone shipped jewelry from India to USA. How did you go about? Was it just a FedEx/DHL shipment?

I am watching Suno Chanda 4 years too late and i am obsessed with this show. I have binged S1 in like 3/4 days and already on the 7th ep. of S2.
Any other recommendations for similarly cute and light hearted shows to unwind.

Folks in the US, which phone service (VoIP?) do you use to call India?

Any recommendations for flights to Canada (Ontario specifically). I typically use Emirates to US and actively avoid Qatar, Air India, Lufthansa - due to low quality and unreliability.

Did anyone recently received RFE on H1-B transfer and got approved ?

Do desi couples stay in love after a decade of marriage? I feel I am around for kids. It’s just a little apathy and a lot of not able to understand each other. We both are good with kids and they are young. We hang out together with the kids but lately have had very little to connect as adults. Is this common?

Anyone here in finance with good wlb? If so, where do you work and how much are you getting paid?

Desi Fam,

I suffer from depression and anxiety. Been facing it through past year now. Have tried all natural methods but no success. Also pandemic hasn’t made it easier as well.

Lot of pressure from family to get married but with my state of mind, not so much inclined. (M29).

Family thinks it good to move back to india and try afresh but the prospect of not been able to get good salary job/ and sabotaging a career that I made gives me more anxiety.

If I have a India bound flight through Toronto, do I need transit visa? Do I need to give biometric for that?

If you have more than one location on the LCA then is the employer required to pay the higher of the minimum wages between the two locations?

MBB folks on H1-B who recently switched to FAANG - did you run into any issues with visa transfer? My transfer has been filed and I’m a bit nervous about USCIS’ perception of consultants and the current sentiment around H1-B visas.

My productivity almost doubled today with Whatsapp, FB and Insta being down!

Moving to the Bay Area fall this year from the east. I’ll be working out of Los Gatos and my wife out of San Bruno we have two kids (4 and 2). Looking at the move to the west as short term (~2 yrs) and looking to rent a place for now (2 or 3 bedroom max). Anyone have recommendations on places around the Bay Area to rent so it’s an easy commute for my wife and me (max 3 days a week in the office) as well as for a family. Thoughts ?