Do people have relationship check-ins with significant others? How soon is too soon to mention the future? (Context: 31F, dating 5 months exclusively, BF likely moving for job in 8 months).

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At 31, a couple knows to cut the bullshit and talk about the future early on so no time is wasted. I’d say you should just bring it up the next time y’all chat

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I wish everyone thought that way. I know I do, and I will be taking your advice. We will see if it is well received. With the human garbage that exists these days in the dating scene, it is a miracle I found someone who wanted to be exclusive. See below for example.

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HMU in 8 months.

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I didn't know check ins were a thing. 34m here and we talk all the time about us as a couple, future, plans etc. Keeps us on track. Maybe start introducing serious topics from your check in list into daily conversation? Easier than having a formal check in - just my 2 cents

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Thanks for advice, all. Started the chat last night and I think it went well. Continuing it in person later today. It was the first time broaching the topic of the future so perhaps now it can be a more regular convo as EY1 mentioned :)

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Nothing wrong with discussing your future together. At this age, there is no time to mess around with someone who doesn’t have the same goals as you.

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