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I actually find I’m focusing more on my hobbies/life than on money as I get older. I’ve felt the pleasure of getting a big bonus or a big salary jump, and have also felt the pleasure of enjoying time with friends and family, reading a really good book or mastering a new piece of music. The second type of pleasure is much more deeply satisfying (and longer lasting) than the first.
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I went through a traumatic disaster with my family in 2011. We escaped death, but almost no one around us did.
It took less than 5 minutes for my life to turn upside down. And over a year and a half for me to recover mentally (my family still suffers from triggers on occasion 9 years later).
The gift this gave me was perspective.
I heard this phrase recently that covers a lot of my new perspective: Anything that costs your peace is too expensive.
I try to live every day as though it may be my last. That perspective has given me a completely different view of what balance looks like and how much weight each piece of the puzzle contains.
Money, career, promotion... they mean absolutely nothing if you do not enjoy your days.
That's not to say that some days suck because you have to work on something hard.
But like climbing a high mountain, some days you're going to drop from exhaustion. That's to be expected.
As long as you are working on a goal whose journey brings you joy.
Your family could be dead tomorrow.
If that happens... will you really be concerned about whether you have the right house, the right promotion, the right salary?
No. You won't.
So don't wait until that happens. Close your eyes and spend a moment to feel what it would be like to lose your family.. that feeling of despair, hopelessness, loss. Open your eyes and realize that everything else is just superfluous sprinkles on the cake.
ANYTHING that costs your peace is too expensive.
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Weekends alone are not enough. The real balance would be a 3 or 4 day work week.
Literally all the time.
No. I’m focusing more and more on my actual life than making more $$.
When you die, what will others say about you? He was great at making money?
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Money is important, don’t get me wrong, but the older I get, I see friends feeling isolated and lonely. Friends and family play an increasingly important role as you age. Hopefully you don’t have an ex who is legally allowed to bleed you dry. That definitely impacts happiness!
I wasted almost all of my 20s chasing the money. I left that job 4 years ago for a local consulting firm. I took a pay put but I am working nearly half the hours. I am so much happier and would do it again
I think I could be content with 85k in a very LCOL city like where I am. Im 3 years in to public and several of my peers have found jobs paying that amount. I think sacrificing for a few years to leap above some of the early BS is not a bad idea at all.
Many of the folks I went to college with that went to industry are still associate accountants. I've been promoted twice already and might make manager in 4 years. I'll decide what I want to do after that.
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I’m pretty focused on making money. But with the whole wfh situation I’m able to spend lots of time on my own happiness as well- I’m running and lifting just about everyday, spending a ton of time with my kids. I feel this year has allowed me to get the best of both worlds.
Making money while I’m young means I’ll have a place to live, I’ll be able to help my spouse with her student loans, at some point we’ll retire, my children will have the option to pursue a quality education, & medical bills or an economic black swan event won’t ruin me. Prioritizing money is okay as long as it’s not your sole goal in life. I get your point though, you’re talking about the people who live to work so they can drive a 7 series instead of a 3 series.
But today I’m pursuing money more than I’m focusing on hobbies or happiness. I’d rather eat my vegetables now and have a good life later. And if I get hit by a bus before I reach that point then the people I love will still enjoy the fruits of my labor.
Chief
I wish I made more money but I love the balance i have in my life. I make enough to get by. I can save. I am comfortable to a point.
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Making more and more $ gives me more freedom to pursue hobbies and live a more comfortable life.
Grew up poor, so I welcome the $150k salary knowing I’ll continue to make more, personally. (I’m 29) And as I grow in my career, I’m getting less and less out of the weeds which I do find myself enjoying.
Very true-money can fuel your individual passions and allow you to do what you’ve always wanted to do! Guess it is a silver lining
Pre-COVID: I think I subscribed to the rat race. More money, more work, more responsibility.
Post-COVID: I’m reminded more of our humanity and how unimportant what we do is. I still give 90-100% on the daily, but I no longer feel the need to think about work at night or on the weekends.
Chief
I was more focused on building my career and growing my salary earlier in my career. Now that I've paid my dues and figured out what I like and don't, the money is the last thing I care to negotiate on an offer. I've always strived to live below my means, and now I save almost 50% of my salary. Money is only important to me as it furthers my happiness. And as much as I would love to upgrade to some luxuries, the money it takes to get three...the stress at work I would have to endure, well that results in a net decrease in happiness.
I look at it as trying to maximize happiness. People erroneously weight money heavily into that equation. But after you've made about $120k in my area, happiness from additional money is very incremental.
I was actually happier when I made nearly a third of my salary. The biggest barrier to achieving that happiness right now is my job. I'd happily take a paycut for a less stressful job.
That’s how I was at EY. Once you leave, and the people around you have hobbies, you begin to forget the rat race.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m still very much focused on accelerating my career and making more money, but I’ve hit the point where I can focus on both life outside work and my career in a reasonably proportionate way.
Once I made manager at EY, I left for that little bit of pay bump still left available in industry and now I have more cash flow than 98% of my peers at my age group and I never had to work a weekend.
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