Do you buy gifts for your significant others family on Christmas? When In the relationship did that start? I’m asking cause I don’t celebrate Christmas but don’t wanna be rude. We’ve been together for awhile and his family never buys me anything so I never thought much about it except this year his mother is getting me a wallet and now I feel weird.

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My family is a big Christmas gifts family, but my husband is Jewish and his family is suuuuuper not into gifts. My husband is like the worst gift giver ever, but is awesome at wrapping presents. So I will buy items that my husband “gives” my parents and in exchange he wraps them for me. 😁 From early on in our relationship, we had the “you will deal with your own family” and act as a buffer for the other person. It works great!

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Good tip! My bf sucks at gift giving and wrapping so usually he would just deal with gifting for his own family but I guess throwing in an extra small gift from me wouldn’t be a huge change

Gotta reciprocate. I never celebrated. Wife loves it. It's all about setting expectations up front. Sounds like that ship has sailed. No problem. Just go with the flow. Start small, a mug, a t shirt, a phone case, a picture frame, just little stuff. Eventually they'll come around and celebrate for you if they're aware enough. If not, just stop. My family got the message and really tried lol. But i had to push them, so make sure ur significant other gets it and nudges their parents in the right direction. Maybe family gifts vs individual? An ornament? Don't think much of it. Just go with the flow and it's totally OK to be surprised and be late with presents. It's the thought that counts.

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Thanks for the input. Yes I think I’ll get something small for her. Just surprised me out of the blue.

Every time they get you something, get them a puppy to reciprocate.

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I don’t celebrate Christmas, my girls family does. After the first year of them getting me a gift I had to start getting them a gift as well. For her siblings gifts I usually just go half’s on whatever she buys and say it’s from both of us, but for her parents I do buy something either separate or a combined gift for both of them

Yeah we’ve been together 9 years and this is the first time they’re gifting me something so I was caught off guard.

Does your boyfriend give his mom a gift? I would just have the gift be from both of you. Same as his parents (if they’re together) would give you a gift from both of them.

He doesn’t get his parents gifts, just siblings

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