Do you ever feel in a relationship absolutely sure you’re with your soulmate or will there always be some doubts you’re not with your perfect match?

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Soulmates aren’t real. Long term success in a relationship takes effort from both. Focusing on the idea of having a soulmate sets you up for failure because you will undoubtably lose the initial infatuation and then what..? In marriage, people so often get divorced because “they fell out of love,” but a lot of times they just never figured out how to be a team, or grow together, once life got real.

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Marriage is settling... settling to be with someone who is just as devoted to both of your growth, success, and happiness as you are. I would gladly trade that kind of love and stability over perpetual what ifs, second guessing, and fair-weather emotions any day.

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I’m never absolutely sure about anything in my life.

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Same.

There are so many people on this planet, so the idea I’m with the one and only person I could ever be a ‘perfect’ match with is absurd to me. But I met someone I love, we make each other happy, and want to share in the experience of building a life and family together.

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Both, like practically speaking I recognize that no one is perfect. With that said, he’s compatible with me sexually, emotionally, fiscally, he’s smart, could be better about the dishes but we’re working on getting a dishwasher lol. I feel like I “knew” within a week of meeting him and, although sometimes he can be a prick and we’re probably both more emotional than is healthy, that feeling has absolutely held throughout the past 4 years that he’s worth hanging out with forever.

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Soulmates or “the one” is made up. Seriously. Google the origins of it. It’s really freaking weird.

The concepts of a soulmate and a perfect match are fairytales. We are all human beings who come into relationships flawed and imperfect. The question is whether you love the person and are compatible. Do you have shared values and goals? Do you enjoy spending time together? Do you communicate well? Do you have a satisfying sex life? These are the questions you should be asking when considering marriage or long term relationship status.

No such thing. You believe out of the 7.6 billion people in the world you luckily happen to find your soul mate? no, you’re just w/ somebody who you are compatible with and have built lasting chemistry. There are countless others on the planet that you would also match perfectly with too.

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