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What's gaslighting? Any experiences ?
To be honest, as an early 30s principal, you may be intimidating to the average guy. Use that to your advantage, don’t settle for a mediocre guy and find you a king.
You are not. I am sure you will meet the prince who treats you right. Sending you 🤗 and ❤️
Have you been in long term relationships? If not, what do you think is getting in the way?
You should learn to love and accept yourself. A lot of people say they do but they actually don’t. When you love and accept yourself, you don’t view yourself as defective because you’re not in a passionate relationship. Take the time to learn more about yourself, what you want and need, and your insecurities and strengths. When you’re the best version of yourself, you’ll attract and only want to be in healthy relationships where you’re valued.
I am sorry you feel this way! How would you describe the guys you have been with?
Feel the same!
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I have been in long term relationships, 2 to be exact:
1. During my university years. I realise now it was a really toxic relationship. He pursued me, then after sleeping with me, said he didn’t find me attractive because he had seen me in the morning once and thought I looked awful. He then strung me along for a year. Then I put my foot down, ended it. He came running back and we stayed together (properly) for 3 years. I ended up breaking up with him because the initial damage he did just never left my memory- I felt like I was punishing him for the rest of the relationship. He proposed to me at one point and I point blank said - absolutely not, never.
2. A relationship with a very kind man for 6 years from the age of 25. We broke up a year ago. I started dating him after I had been single for 2 years. He was the first person that felt like he wouldn’t hurt me, and he didn’t, but it didn’t ever feel like real love. It felt like settling- and I always knew that he felt that way too.
I think one of the most formative experience I have had is between relationships 1 and 2. I met a guy at work, and it’s the only time I can truly say I experience love/ lust at first sight. We were friends at first, then we started dating. I was so incredibly happy. Then he told me he his ex was coming back from a secondment in Singapore, that they had only really been on a break, and that he couldn’t really bring himself to totally end it. So he broke up with me. They got engaged 6 months later (they had previously been together for 6 years). To this day, I still feel some sadness about it. We didn’t speak again after he broke up with me, but from what I heard along the way he seems very happy.
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I really don’t think think it was about lust in the end. We were together for 5 months, I didn’t know about his ex until 3 weeks before he broke things off. I knew he had an ex ofcourse, but not in that situation.
I think the fact it has stayed with me is because I was genuinely happy, in a way I hadn’t felt before or since in a relationship (and it’s been a very long time). I have obviously moved on with my life, and I really wouldn’t want to be with him anymore, it’s just that he just did so much damage and I don’t know how to rewind that. I don’t think he did it intentionally, it’s just a by-product I suppos.
I know why are you saying what you are saying about my last relationship- it’s why I stayed so long. But you can’t force love- you can’t convince yourself that something exists when it doesn’t. Trust me, I tried…
https://thoughtcatalog.com/bianca-sparacino/2019/04/maybe-right-now-your-journey-isnt-about-love/ . I read this article the other day OP. Really helpful
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Meh. I might just have been with the wrong people. I think the whole "there's one special person out there for you" story is oversold in the west. Our personalities change so much in our lifetimes I think it is unreasonable to assume only one person is your soulmate/ultimate match. We get our fulfillment from so many places. I have work best friends who (in the moment) have understood me more than any S.O. The same goes for other aspects in my life.
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I suppose I tend to end up with men who initially I am not interested in, I will give them a chance, and then the tables turn and they start to really take advantage of me. I feel quite emotionally damaged from these experiences.
When I have met people I like, I almost feel like they would never want me, and even if they do at the beginning, it will inevitably end in one awful way or the other.
I just feel sort of broken inside. I am so happy at work, with my friends and family. Sometimes I wonder if that’s just my destiny- I am so blessed in other areas, maybe romantic love is just not in my future.
It is a good thing to worry, so you can do your due diligence to chose the right therapy and therapist for you, I suggest you watch Matthias Barker on how to chose a good therapist and Kati Morton on which type of therapy is right for you! Be demanding and courageous and you won’t regret it! I wish you the best!