Do you feel like there are certain things you need to experience as a couple or accomplish before getting engaged/married? Started talking about it with my SO and curious what y'all think?

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I wouldn't get married without living together for a bit to make sure it works, discussing family and expectations and I'd wait until I was financially stable.

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Nah I felt marriage only enhanced things we never experienced before

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Made it better! We share accounts.

I’d be super uncomfortable about committing to marriage before I knew how they handled finances and family matters.. these are the two things that have broken marriages around me..

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What does handle finances mean? Like debt? Savings strategy? What types of family matters are you referring to?

Experience or accomplish? No. Agree on and set expectations around? Absolutely.
But I’m about to propose to my girlfriend of three months. Maybe my advice isn’t worth anything 😂😂😂

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Are they on top of their loans? Credit card bills? Do they have a certain fraction going towards their savings? Family matters as in how do they handle disagreements between say you and your in-laws? Is that patronizing or is that a logical issue based reasoning? Family furthers thus! Let’s not forget you have to raise the same set of children, if you plan to have them. They need to have a certain alignment between the parents. I am product of a broken marriage but fortunately after 30 years of me being around, my parents are trying to make it work. Not everyone is this lucky.

My SO and I have goals we want to meet before getting married. Being financially independent of each other. Paying off student loans. Paying towards my parents mortgage. And living together for at least a year before moving forward. He lives on his own but im still at home. We've been together 7 years and are not interested in rushing into anything.

I personally think you need to experience the ups and downs of life together for *at least* a year before getting married. Make sure your relationship is "real life"-proof and not just that fun fairytale fantasy that is typically the beginning (and most fun part) of a relationship.

It's good to know how you both handle conflicts or emergencies and how each of you relates to your own and each other's families and all those associated dynamics.

My first marriage lasted just five years after almost 10 years of on/off dating before he committed. My current relationship, he proposed after a nine-month long distance thing. That was almost 14 years ago. We're still together, although we never bothered to get married. (both been there, done that, and paid the price/legal fees!)

What can I say? Life is weird and unpredictable...

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