Do you feel that there are way more btm than top? Sometimes I was having some good chats on dating apps but it turned out that we are the same “type”

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I wish there was a surplus of bottoms, but I suspect it’s more related to selection bias when we (tops or bottoms) can’t instantaneously find what we want.

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I'm a top dating a top 🤣

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Share and share alike, we always say 🤣 (and is it infidelity if you're both committing it at the same time from either side of a willing boy?)

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Weirdly, vers is also an option.

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@Autnor MC—. On a case there for 60 days over a few months. And that’s where I got the idea! I’m from the US though. And those coins are pretty cool. At least some people thought they were! Talk about shtick! But when something works…well…

I feel that some top acts like they are at the top of the food chain and being not too nice because of endless btm supply

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I’m a top, but my utilization rate is very low, I might be a reason for top shortage too 🥴 I’m just feeling uncomfortable in hookups 🥲

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Better safe than sorry 😄 I’m based in Stuttgart 🇩🇪 probably to far away for a date 😅

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So as I recall my Microeconomics 101, this means we need a tax on tops and a lube/fibre subsidy to support bottoms?

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I’m a top simply for the fact that I cannot physically bottom (medical reasons). But I’m well endowed enough to be a great top! Dating a vers top and we make it work. Lots of oral, he will bottom for me occasionally, and if he really wants to top we will have a third over.

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Glad it works for you. But to me oral is overrated (just a prelude to something else) and I can’t stand sharing. So I’m pretty limited to versatile guys.

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I am Asian top but look more bottom-ish (plus am attracted to masculine guys) - this often created some “oh” moments in the bedroom but they always just went with it

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I’m a white guy with an Asian partner. He’s usually a bottom, but I’m versatile and love to switch it up!

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I thought research has consistently showed 50% report as vers, 25% as bottom and 25% as top?

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My definition of vers is more like 40%-60%

It’s simple math actually.

Tops date tops, but bottoms don’t date bottoms. Ergo you have more single people who are bottoms.

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Even when I count vers top as top, I feel that btm and vers btm are 3x the amount

There really is a top shortage.

I think this is a studied fact, not just a feeling.

Seems like it is a global issue…curious to know the stats

I agree. Seems there’s a shortage of tops.

Vers top here and I feel like this is true as well! Most guys I chat to seem btm or vers btm. So I’m happy.

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There’s a Vice article from 2016 that looked at anecdotal evidence from apps, wonder where the statistics are at now. Back then it skewed top over bottom on reported preferences, accounting for position history for self-reported vers guys.

Grindr Top to Bottom - 6% : 4%
Scruff Top to Bottom - 21% : 19%
Craigslist (controlling for vers) - “roughly a quarter” 25% : 25% + 52% : 48% of reclassified vers

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