Do you get easily frustrated and nervous at work? I have no patience in myself and got really mad at myself when I don’t understand something. What can I do? I don’t know if I’m actually stupid and maybe that’s how others perceive me or I’m being too harsh on myself

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Think about how long you have been in your role and if it is a product of your environment. I found that most time, it was me being in my own head and being nervous to ask for help. I can guarantee that your peers most likely went through similar thoughts when they were in your shoes


If there's anything I have learnt, it's that patience goes a long way.
You being patient with yourself is not only going to help your learning process but also, instill confidence of others around you in you.
If you're doubting your capabilities to learn the job in the time frame you're thinking is the right one, check with other colleagues on their experience with the process and the timelines they took.
Focus on the quality of trainings being given to you as well.
We all can be harsh on ourselves sometimes, I guess idealism drives it. Being practical is the only solution.
All the best.


If it's a new role or new tasks you can invest some time trying to understand the workings yourself and where you are stuck have a list of questions ready to ask for help. You are not expected to know everything about your job. Also being hard on yourself will only lead to more anxiety, mental blocks and frustration. In summary ask for help and look at the big picture. All the best!


You feel frustrated and impatient because of the high expectations you have for yourself, but you will learn to manage the emotions better with time.

What works for me is I take breaks. When I get frustrated or when I know my emotions are getting strong, I will force myself to stand up and take a walk to the pantry (wfo) or kitchen (wfh). Then I’ll “restart” when I get back to my seat. It’s a simple < 5 mins break, but pulling the brakes on your emotions, before they heighten further, can help.

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