Do you have a limit on the # of past gfs / bfs your future husband or wife has had? Would you make any exceptions?

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Even if it was 1600, it’s still not okay for a Muslim to have a ‘gf/bf' unless they’re getting to know each other for the purpose of getting married

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It screams committed to your deen....

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At this point i am not being picky. Just accepting all applications tbh

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This is wierd ngl

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I agree, question is weird. If you mean gf and bf, you meant the number they have slept with, I will say ideally zero. But if you mean just talking to someone for the purpose of marriage, I don’t really care. If he or she found someone else compatible, we wouldn’t be partners .

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Depends on the age of your partner.

18-25 <=7
26-30 <=10
31-35 <=15
Over 35: the more the better, just means they have experience

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I consider myself to err on side of being conservative so would look to find someone of comparable values
If she had good deen/beliefs, morals, ethics
And the promiscuous life is behind her than idc

Case in point many converts

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Ideally it would be zero if we are talking about sleeping around but I agree with K1...if the person they are today is completely different than what they were in a past life I would just want her to be up front about it.

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Ey2 can you explain to me how your comment is not narrow minded?

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Rare yes, impossible absolutely not. I know a good number of people that have never had a bf/gf before.

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C3, i ‘should’ be able to...? Honey, this is a free world and you’re entitled to make your personal choices, as am I. It’s a major red flag for me if someone hasn’t had a bf / gf, but I understand that may not be the case for you. Peace.

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The no. should not be higher than mine.

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Damn dude. Welcome to the 1600s

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OP, the response you will get is going to vary. For someone who has participated in the secular dating life, they will be more open to having a bf or gf that has baggage, but for someone who is trying to stick to the halal life, they will be less open. You got to determine where you belong decide what you can tolerate .

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Umm D1: lol secular dating life.

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Maybe you should just marry your cousin OP. Feel like that way you won’t be so insecure.

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I would never marry / date someone who hasn’t had a bf / gf before. How can you be in your 20s / 30s and never dated? That screams weird

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You know what's weird, when you write a comment and can't commit to what you say so you delete it rather than owning up to it. It's

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E2, it’s def not weird. Also I think having a bf/gf is diff than dating. People are technically dating/courting when they’re trying to get to know people. Bf/gf is about having a long term relationship. Some people don’t go there unless they see marriage potential in the person they’re dating/courting. Also it’s about understanding how relationships work and knowing how to navigate that, and if you have friends/family and are thoughtful about those relationships, then you should be able to know how to be in one with a SO with some nuances.

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