Do you have close friendships with the opposite gender? Does this change if you’re married?

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Married female, have close guy friends but ultimately my spouse is always my closest friend. Anything I discuss with other people, especially a guy, I'll def share with my spouse 🙊

In case it matters, my husband doesn't have any close girl friends and I'd probably be annoyed if he did lol

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This is exactly the same situation as my wife and me, but she’s an academic and her male friends are 80 year old professors so I don’t mind.

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My closest friend is a girl, and we don’t have any sort of feelings for each other - that also maybe cause she’s Hindu lol

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No nothing wrong with dating a Hindu, just a lot more barriers to cross to make it work and sunk cost of losing a friend of 6-7 years if it doesn’t work.

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I know the general consensus amongst us Muslims is a no no for opposite gender relations, especially if you’re married.
I used to believe this too until I made a great friend who is a guy and there really is nothing between us beside friendship.
If you’re married, are you opposed to this? Do you believe it opens doors to emotional cheating, etc?

I’m a guy and I have a girl roommate who I’ve been friends with for the past 8 years now I think (roommate for the last 2 years). It’s strictly platonic.

I guess the correct answer to your question is, it depends

My best friend is gay and that made me an ally. Some of my great friends have been women.

I would rather chose respect over irrational religiousity

Not to mention their “decency” seems to only be a bi-product of being close to someone different. Not just ingrained in your overall mentality.

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I have zero close relationships with the opposite gender, strictly work relationships.

Personally, would not care if I did marry to a person that has close male friends.

Signed M fish.

Depends what you do with that close friend
Would you go to the Movies with them?
would you go to a restaurant (1-1) with them as you would with a same gender friend?

There are limits to what could be done
I always try to put myself in my spouse’s shoes and see She might get bothered by that

I think the limits definitely change with marriage or a relationship but if you’re single I think it’s all based on personal preference then

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