Do you share finances with your spouse? As in are you planning to fund their retirement? Soon to be married (F) and making more than my spouse but he doesn’t save well- curious how others handle this

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My spouse makes more than me. She also had the same concerns as you. She decided to be open with me about it and had the potentially difficult conversation me. Trust that your partner will take the conversation positively and not defensively. We are now working on saving more by cutting expenses but I am also working to increase my comp (job change, side hustles, etc.).

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Thanks- I’ve realized that so often people support their spouse in working years and retirement when 1 doesn’t work and it’s actually very selfless/admirable.

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Make sure you get a pre-nup if you are making more. I didn’t have one and LUCKILY my recent divorce was amicable. But should things go sideways, make sure you have an exit strategy.

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