Do you think it's a red flag if you feel anxious in a relationship, or is that normal as part of getting to know someone?

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I’ve always been emotionally stable in a relationship. So if I constantly feel bad/unhappy/anxious/fearful, I know it’s not the right relationship for me.

For some people who tend to be anxious, it might be harder to gauge.

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What are you anxious about? How long have you been in the relationship?

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It depends on your general demeanor. My partner is anxious by nature, but I am rarely anxious. If I felt (bad) anxious, it would be concerning to me. But you have to understand how you generally approach these things.

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Anxious attachment style is a thing

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It likely means you’re not a great match — but it also could mean you have a lot of self-work to do before entering a full-fledged relationship

Even people with anxious attachment can grow secure over time — but only in a healthy relationship with someone who doesn’t bring out their anxiety. Don’t dig yourself deeper in a relationship that brings out your anxiety

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It depends on your attachment style and what behaviors by the other person are triggering the anxious feelings.

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