Do you worry about your significant other cheating while they travel or while you travel? My boyfriend hasn’t done anything deceitful in this aspect but I still worry. Any advice?

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Try to figure out what's driving that fear.

Once you tap into that & deal with whatever the source is- you can free yourself and your partner of the burden of that. Maybe it was infidelity that occurred in your family, maybe you were personally cheated on before, maybe you were the cheater, maybe you felt abandoned by a partner before, maybe you have anxiety about if/when you'll get married, maybe you're uncertain about how you'll maintain connection with the career and travel you have...

So many of us live our lives in fear of the "what if"s coming true. And it isn't healthy to our bodies or souls. Just be kind to yourself and know that lots of us go through this insecurity. Don't let it consume you though

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Unless you have good cause for concern, this is unproductive worst-case scenario fretting .... to what end? Always being worried/suspicious/untrusting?

As Slalom said, try to pinpoint what a driving your concern and take it from there.

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I’m not currently worried, though have been in the past. Bf and I have had some really frank conversations about it and what it would mean to each of us if it were to happen.

We’ve discussed that if the desire to have sex with anyone outside our relationship were to come up and we wanted to peruse it we would discuss it and consider making our relationship an open one. This is of course something we’d both have to think about if we got to that point, but for us the most important thing is communication. And because we are comfortable talking about it, I don’t worry that we’d end up in a situation where we had sex with someone without prior discussion.

I know a lot of ppl wouldn’t be comfortable with our situation and the potential of even discussing an open relationship, so know this wouldn’t be for everyone

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Not at all actually. We have a great relationship, love each other, so why would he? Even if there could be other interesting ladies around, I think he won’t think a second to screw up what we have.

See why you feel this way and unless it’s a hunch (which doesn’t seem to be the case) nip it in the bud. It also projects lack of confidence to him which is not great or appealing.

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