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I tell my parents if they ask. They have no idea what I do and wouldn’t be able to understand so knowing my salary helps them to understand how “successful” I am and is a huge point of pride for them (given they earned significantly less) Edit: I should add that my parents are immigrants so seeing what I earn helps them to feel that the sacrifices they made were worth it

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Sorry, OP. I had barely graduated and my mom asked me to help with a down payment and co-sign a house within a few months of me having a salary despite being so resentful about my not going to grad school. I’ve learned my lesson since.

They know the ballpark from me telling them what I started with and vague ideas on raises. I’m starting to practice being more vague though. They weren’t great with their finances and I’m still traumatized from some of the fallout (handling bill collectors, helping them file for bankruptcy as a child) so I’m trying to prevent expectations.

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oh my god exactly lol im traumatized that i essentially have a mortgage by living at home 👁👄👁

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My parents don’t even know what job I have

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Same. They barely understand what I do, let alone what market salaries are for it.

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My parents are immigrants/refugees and I enjoy telling them my income just for the mind blowing factor. They worked minimum wage jobs so I tell them so they can realize there sacrifices were not for nothing.

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My mom’s my CPA...so yes. And they will until I want to pay someone else to do my taxes.

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I got a C (my only C) in finance primarily due to a complete lack of interest. I am sure I could figure it out but can’t imagine when I outsource every other aspect of my life that my new hobby would be figuring out my taxes. I was also fined an absurd amount for not registering my car when I moved so I know I fail at the majority of administrative activities. Play to one’s strengths.

Absolutely not. I wouldn't have that discussion, as my parents would have little context for it. I wouldn't risk them possibly feeling belittled. When you're the first in your family to make the jump from the blue collar world, you have to think of these things.

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My dad is a partner for another firm so we always end up talking about it

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Which firm?

Absolutely not. Never. They would have no context for it. And given their backgrounds, it would seem extremely wealthy, which it is not. They are in their 80s and worked lower wage jobs, and haven't worked in 20 years either.

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How much is the bonus amount anyway?!

Yep, they are my measure of success so unless they say I’m proud of you I don’t get excited

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Yes but honestly I wish they didn't. It makes things weird and creates expectations.

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Yes my parents are my biggest cheerleaders. While they don’t care about the exact amount they are happy that I am doing reasonably well

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No they don’t. For whatever reason my dad gets very resentful and weird if I even talk about finding retirement accounts, getting raises, etc., even though my parents have done just fine in life.

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Yes, they feel happy for me and are proud of me so why not?

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This post is so insightful in all the different parent child equations. I feel for those who can’t /don’t share this with their parents. I’m proud of all of you for doing this awesome so early in your lives! You are killing it!

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Haven't kept them current on recent raises but they have an idea.

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Nah dawg

Yes, grew up low income, still help them financially. They’re proud of me even if they don’t understand the work.

Yes. And it blows their mind.

I told them my salary when I got hired in as an analyst and my parents seemed to be very proud at first (making more than my parents combined) but then… My Uncle and Father got upset I didn’t buy a house for my Uncle (that is “his” but under someone else’s name for shady reasons). It’s been two years since and things are still tense. My family is LSES but also not really… they’re just bad with money. And get weird when I mention how I choose not to spend on certain things to stick to my budget (Mom suggested I buy a 30k car, I said I rather save the money and just uber until I really need one, etc). In the future, I’ll probably share that I was promoted but not how much the raise was

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