{ "media_type": "text", "post_content": "Does any other women go into Elle Woods mode when dealing with male CDs? I always act extra bubbly and ever so slightly flirtatious when dealing with them because it's how I've gotten what I want. But I just had a realization of how gross that is that I automatically do this... Anyone else?", "post_id": "60fdfe4949376000201aa47c", "reply_count": 14, "vote_count": 8, "bowl_id": "5976222cab932800101a9ca4", "bowl_name": "Women in Advertising" }

Does any other women go into Elle Woods mode when dealing with male CDs? I always act extra bubbly and ever so slightly flirtatious when dealing with them because it's how I've gotten what I want. But I just had a realization of how gross that is that I automatically do this... Anyone else?

like
Posting as :
works at
You are currently posting as works at

By “go into Elle Woods mode” do you mean be a smart, powerful woman who got a 179 on her LSATS on the first try and then got into Harvard Law where she went on to win over her peers who mistakenly assumed she was a total bimbo based solely on how she looked and then she won a high profile court case as a first year law student while being true to herself, a loyal friend, a dog mom and a fashion icon and then gave the student address at the Harvard Law School graduation after being offered a job at a prestigious law firm? Because, as a woman, I can only dream of ascending to that level of boss bitch. 💖

likeupliftingsmart

Well... When you summarize it like that.... 🤔🤔😉

like

nah i'm ugly so it wouldn't work anyways LMAO

funnylike

I feel like to actually do the opposite because they expect me to be submissive

like

I love it when people say something like, “wow, you’re tough.” and it’s like no, I’m just not a doormat.

likefunny

Work with what god gave you, they sure do it. And anyone who judges you can fuck themselves… we live in a society 🙃

like

I've definitely seen women I know use this tooooo basically manipulate men, but don't be too hard in yourself for it. Remember that this is what you've unconsciously resorted to in order to gain (somewhat) equal footing to your male peers in a patriarchal society :) what's messed up is that we have to resort to playing into their ridiculous dumb-girl stereotypes to gain empathy and attention that they readily hand to their male peers.

like

There’s probably a reason you feel you need to do this — sounds like you’ve tried other methods but this is has been the most successful way to get your point across. It’s annoyingly still one of the main ways women can be effective. As long as you’re always aware of your boundaries, where the line is, etc there’s nothing inherently gross about that. In a way, it’s just business. 😉

like

I think my CDs expect me to do this and are regularly disappointed when I don’t.

like

Not on purpose, but my female manager feels that I do. I would say I’m attractive and naturally a cheerful person, so I believe it comes off sometimes as flirty. It’s a behavior I’m trying to correct…but it’s tricky since I don’t do it intentionally.

like

Ugh no, I wish I knew how to do this. I grew up feeling ugly and ive internalized it so I just DO NOT flirt…I just feel like I’ll gross the other person out instead of helping me get my way. (Now If it’s a dating situation and it’s reciprocated that’s a diff story….)

like

I haven’t seen that movie but I think I know what you mean and yes, I do it subconsciously. It’s sort of a natural impulse, it’s not disingenuous it’s just a bubbly friendly version of myself but I sort of am like wait is this/does this read as flirtatious? It’s weird.

like

exact same experience. I am a naturally bubbly person but am often self-conscious that others may think it comes across as flirtatious (purposely)

like

Additional Posts

Has anyone used The Warton Group for 401k appointments? Seems like a lot of money for uncertain success...

likehelpful

I am on H1B. When firms ask “do you require sponsorship” is the answer yes? I would require a green card at some point, but if there is an interesting role that can’t file my GC,happy to work in H1.

Sister is mentally ill and born with brain injury. I'm sensing she's on her way back to psych ward, as she's displaying her crazy symptoms again. Not looking forward to this

Been working for a year at my position. First full time gig programming. Even got interns and a raise. Still have no clue what the fuck I'm working with or doing.

likefunny

Struggling with anxiety...anyone gone to a medical professional for this? Do you just go to a primary care doc first and then get a referral?

like

Does anyone know the salary range for EY supply chain and operations C and SC? EY

like

Moms out there wfh with a nanny that have an infant any suggestions for them to keep entertained? Mine is 10 months and I need some ideas for sensory play or just new fun activities for them

like

Has anyone successfully received a referral bonus at Deloitte? This is my second denied because the person worked for a former client of Deloitte. What's the point of offering referral bonuses?

like

Any good immigration attorney recommendations for consultation over phone?

I recently quite Deloitte before my sign on bonus vesting period. I know I need to pay it back but no one reached out to me for it and I was wondering how or who I should pay it back to?

like

Anyone applied, applying, or attended Law School? If so, would you be willing to chat?

like

Does anyone have any insight working for Appian? (Pay, WLB, benefits etc). I have an interview for a Technology Strategy Analyst position but not sure if I want to leave consulting.

like

Hi Guys, I have been offered by UiPath to come as an consultant in their emerging product service department- anyone has any insights in their culture, financial offering ? My position will be to as an Process Mining Consultant.

like

Hi looking to leave banking operations after 20 years and just finished my MBA. I would like to go into a strategy or product management role. Any advice? I feel like it’s been difficult getting my skills across

like

Have an approved 140 from previous employers, current employer filed the PERM which went into Audit. While I understand that about 20-25% of the PERM applications are subject to random audit, wondering if it impacts anything? Visa stamping (from home country) or extension, in particular?

like

Are any of the healthcare agencies more creative than the others? Or all about the same?

likehelpfulfunny

Hello guys and gals, at some point I will have to negotiate the salary for my next promotion - to senior accountant. As most of us are in different parts of the world, I'd like to ask what % increase you'd expect in relation to your previous salary? Also any tips for negotiating? Thanks a million. 😁

like

I’m from Europe and trying to get a job in NYC. I’ve moved there for 2 months, and did some informal interviews thanks to some acquaintances. Online applications seems to be unnoticed. Any tips?

like

Let's say I have 100k invested in a SaaS startup that went public. I'm 28, employed, have another 35k invested in ETFs/dozen other stocks and have maxed out my 401k and roth contributions. I'm bullish on the startup for the long term. Would you: 1) Recoup your initial investment pre-IPO and let the rest ride 2) Sell the full 100k, pay capital gains tax, and diversify 3) A mix of both, and if so what allocation

likehelpful

There’s a company that I really want to work for in the future, is it possible to convince them I apply for my green card now and then join them once the EAD card comes in post-GC approval?

New to Fishbowl?

Download the Fishbowl app to
unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.
Download Fishbowl to see what others are saying
That was just a preview…
Sign Up to see all discussions
  • Discover what it’s like to work at companies from real professionals
  • Get candid advice from people in your field in a safe space
  • Chat and network with other professionals in your field
Sign up in seconds to unlock all discussions on Fishbowl.

Already a user?
Login here

Share

Embed this post

Copy and paste embed code on your site

Preview

Download the Fishbowl app

Get realtime notifications and see
what's happening in your industry
from the palm of your hand.

For account settings, visit Fishbowl on Desktop Browser or

General

Legal