Does any other women go into Elle Woods mode when dealing with male CDs? I always act extra bubbly and ever so slightly flirtatious when dealing with them because it's how I've gotten what I want. But I just had a realization of how gross that is that I automatically do this... Anyone else?

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By “go into Elle Woods mode” do you mean be a smart, powerful woman who got a 179 on her LSATS on the first try and then got into Harvard Law where she went on to win over her peers who mistakenly assumed she was a total bimbo based solely on how she looked and then she won a high profile court case as a first year law student while being true to herself, a loyal friend, a dog mom and a fashion icon and then gave the student address at the Harvard Law School graduation after being offered a job at a prestigious law firm? Because, as a woman, I can only dream of ascending to that level of boss bitch. 💖

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Well... When you summarize it like that.... 🤔🤔😉

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nah i'm ugly so it wouldn't work anyways LMAO

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I feel like to actually do the opposite because they expect me to be submissive

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I love it when people say something like, “wow, you’re tough.” and it’s like no, I’m just not a doormat.

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Work with what god gave you, they sure do it. And anyone who judges you can fuck themselves… we live in a society 🙃

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I've definitely seen women I know use this tooooo basically manipulate men, but don't be too hard in yourself for it. Remember that this is what you've unconsciously resorted to in order to gain (somewhat) equal footing to your male peers in a patriarchal society :) what's messed up is that we have to resort to playing into their ridiculous dumb-girl stereotypes to gain empathy and attention that they readily hand to their male peers.

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There’s probably a reason you feel you need to do this — sounds like you’ve tried other methods but this is has been the most successful way to get your point across. It’s annoyingly still one of the main ways women can be effective. As long as you’re always aware of your boundaries, where the line is, etc there’s nothing inherently gross about that. In a way, it’s just business. 😉

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I think my CDs expect me to do this and are regularly disappointed when I don’t.

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Not on purpose, but my female manager feels that I do. I would say I’m attractive and naturally a cheerful person, so I believe it comes off sometimes as flirty. It’s a behavior I’m trying to correct…but it’s tricky since I don’t do it intentionally.

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Ugh no, I wish I knew how to do this. I grew up feeling ugly and ive internalized it so I just DO NOT flirt…I just feel like I’ll gross the other person out instead of helping me get my way. (Now If it’s a dating situation and it’s reciprocated that’s a diff story….)

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I haven’t seen that movie but I think I know what you mean and yes, I do it subconsciously. It’s sort of a natural impulse, it’s not disingenuous it’s just a bubbly friendly version of myself but I sort of am like wait is this/does this read as flirtatious? It’s weird.

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exact same experience. I am a naturally bubbly person but am often self-conscious that others may think it comes across as flirtatious (purposely)

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