does anyone else ever want to permanently disassociate with their immediate and extended family? we’ve never really gotten along smoothly and even in this time of my need (which is rare) they keep putting themselves first so i’m not exactly sure what’s the point of them being around since my quality of life is so much better without them.

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Yea I thought about it then realized I’m better off setting boundaries without cutting them off.

Some of my extended family can be very intrusive in my life, i.e., you should get a higher paying job, you should move here, you should date this girl, etc. if they repeatedly cross my boundaries then I might cut them out of my life

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I have not spoken to my family 2011.

Its liberating but also sad because I don't go anywhere on holidays

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