Does anyone else feel down/depressed right after a big closing? Even for those deals I can’t wait to be done with and exhaustion aside, I consistently feel a wave of sadness after a closing. Am I alone?

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I feel that way after a trial (even one that I win). I think it's the adrenaline crash.

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So I’m a trial lawyer but I suspect taking a verdict is similar to completing a closing. My guess is that you’re feeling your hormones atop running and the exhaustion set in. I also usually get sick because in the weeks or months before a trial I neglect more or less every form of self care. A doctor could explain it better but I refer to it as crashing. The duration depends on the case but most of my trials are multi week, high consequence events that take me weeks to recover from. I’ve gotten better over the years managing my sleep but high-test legal work done under extreme time pressure is no joke from an endurance standpoint.

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Agreed, although the crash is a little worse after a loss, or so I’m told 😉.

I feel that after any high adrenaline stretch of work. I worked several 80+ hour weeks in a row. Finally have a slow week this week and I’ve been completely laid out mentally. Like barely functional and just in a terrible funk.

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I mean, it's just coming down from adrenalin. If it's a really long term deal, I get sad I wont be working with my clients or certain colleagues as closely too....

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Yes!! I always feel like a train hit me; exhaustion and deep sadness. I recall feeling that same funk after taking the bar as well. My mentor says it’s the adrenaline disappearing.

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I almost feel like work can consume so much of our days that we don’t know what else to do otherwise. Just sitting alone with our thoughts. The social withdrawal doesn’t help.

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Adrenaline Junkies. Your body asking for more torture. I guess in a way we are all masochists.

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Oh my gosh yes! I was actually laying in bed last week at 6:00 AM after pulling an all-nighter for a closing and googled “addicted to deals???” just out of curiosity whether anyone else felt similar haha

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I don’t think it’s at all weird to feel that way now that I think about it, though I‘ve never been anything but happy to get rid of a deal... but my practice is high volume and short timelines (30-90 days)

I just want to sleep.

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