Does anyone else feel exhausted of listening to people’s problems? My immediate and extended family and my SO all use me to talk through their emotional issues and it’s just so tiring to listen to. It feels like I’m supposed to deal with my own issues internally and then also shoulder everyone else’s sh*t. Caveat: culturally I can’t really brush them off

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Yea everyone confides in me and there’s no one I can share my stuff with, it’s not the best

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Sorry that’s what I meant too. Therapy for yourself

There are classes you can take to help you to learn to become more compassionate. I would suggest starting there.

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I say this because you’ll always find that you can’t change how others behave, act, and feel. You mentioned these are immediate family and spouse that you can’t walk away from so the logical course of action is to look at the way you deal with it internally. Having compassion and understanding is one way.

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Preserve yourself. Everyone is supposed to handle their own shit and resolve their issues in their head. You ain't any therapist for your clan.

I had someone like that and honestly it began to affect me , so I had sometimes ignore their calls. Your mental health and emotional well-being is also important.

Establishing firm boundaries is the only way

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