Does anyone else feel like their S/O is becoming more like a roommate? We’re in our early thirties and have lived together now for three years. Intimacy has dwindled in the last 5 months or so, we still get along great and enjoy our time together, but feels less romantic. My fear is that if this is what it feels like when we’re young, that it will be be like when we’re in our 40s and 50s? Has anyone else gone through this and how did it work out for you?

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You have to make the effort to keep the spark alive. There are resources that go beyond any advice you’ll get here, I suggest you use them.

My own approach is: be touchy, make them feel appreciated, do things for them (without asking for reciprocity), keep it sexy.

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I would just start with google 🤷🏽‍♀️

No matter how long you’ve been with a partner, the spark will fade if you stop “dating” - romantic gestures, physical affection, emotional support, goal setting together, dinners out, picnics, date nights, etc.

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You need to start dating again. Reserve time for the two of you, talk, put in the effort to get to know them all over again. I say the foundation of a good relationship is having a good friendship but you need to build on it as well.

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I went through this. We broke up. I think working from home together through the pandemic was a big factor. It’s a different world now.

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Sorry to hear that, I hope life is better now.

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