Does anyone else feel like they did their whole life wrong?

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Yes! Well maybe not every single aspect of it, but I squandered the better part of 15 years with substance abuse, and I often wonder where I’d be if I had listened to that friend in college who talked to me about my drinking right as it ramped up.

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Ditto Associate 1; 15 years of substance abuse where I was emotionally trapped as a teenager. Thankfully I found recovery and am finally feeling like I can live a life I’m proud of. More and more I’m convinced that my path was never meant to be the cookie-cutter fairytale I sorta thought I wanted.

I’m not married, no kids, no house, no pets, heck, not even a plant, but I feel like I’m on the launchpad for life and I know that all I have is today. Today is the day. Today is always the day. 🚀

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I will say though... I just found this group called One Trail - it’s focused on women specifically but they basically have different people map out their paths to where they are now and all the twists and turns. Whole idea is there is no one path to “success” or happiness. It was kind of nice for me to see that since I also feel like I haven’t hit the milestones that society typically celebrates (I.e. I’m about to turn 30, single, no kids, etc etc)

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Oops it’s own trail not one trail lol

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Yep to be fair I didn’t start from a great place and it could have gone worse. But it could have gone a lot better and I blame myself.

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I keep telling myself it’s not a bad life... just a bad day. People would love to have my life. But the things I want can’t be bought or easily attained.

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