Does anyone else have a problem talking over people or dominating in meetings? I’m hyper aware of women dealing with being interrupted or “mansplained” to, and am afraid I am overcompensating.

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I'm paranoid that I do this too!! No one has ever said anything to me about it, but I hear myself and internally cringe at my own behavior sometimes.

I asked one of my bosses at a previous job whether he thought I was being too aggressive in a meeting we were both in and he said "Not at all! You being 'overly aggressive' is still less than a normal person's average aggressive-ness". That made me feel better. But it's been a few years since he said that and I feel like I've gotten ruder since then...

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Yeah exactly! I don’t care about being perceived as aggressive, but I can hear myself interrupting people or cutting them off and internally cringe

I’m very outspoken in general so not a problem unless it’s an area that I’m not too confident in. Generally I jump/ interrupt when the mansplaining begins and just clarify “I get that however...” I’m not patient enough to sit there and listen. I am loving wfh though because my eyes stay rolled to the back of my head these days 🤣

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P.S: who cares. It’s aggressive only because a women is expected to be meek and soft spoken 🙄

I know, I just feel like now I’m borderline rude because I’m trying too hard to not be meek.

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