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Can you take a Friday off once a month or so? Weekday errands are a dream and worth the PTO imo.
We only have 15 days off, 12 months a year, that’d be most of your vacation...
Tomorrow is my last day in consulting for this reason. I am praying I can finally find some peace and feel on top of my life. Haven’t felt organized and confident since college. The anxiety of always being late to respond to someone, return a package, fill a prescription... it’s killing me. I’m also having a great successful career mon-Fri but I can’t figure out how to balance the pressure.
Same (minus the missing the grind or prestige part). Investing heavily because I really want the optionality that comes from being financially independent
I’m in the same boat. People ask me what I’m up to on weekends—and it feels weird to say errands. Half of it is playing catch up on what feels like a 3-4 month backlog.
Usually Friday nights w/ friends, and Sunday ~11pm-7pm with friends.
But the flowchart is usually friends first—if no friends, then errands. Never relaxing & doing nothing. Feel like I can’t ever get caught up so any time I’m marinating is time I’m procrastinating (and subsequently life gets more out of control overall).
How do you get time away to do the basic stuff like go to the doctor, pay bills, etc. I always feel like I’m playing catch up and end up giving up my weekends just to try to get a grip
Some stuff - cleaning, laundry, etc. can be outsourced.
Wouldn’t worry about finances - if your career is going great, that’ll figure itself out.
Friends, family, dating - to be blunt, this is why people leave consulting
Ya even with the career going well, finances don’t just “figure themselves out”. Overspending is a real issue, regardless of how much you make.
This sounds like my life. Perhaps we need a support group. Appreciate knowing I’m not alone.
I feel you, I've gone to collections by accident on bills I didn't know about.
Hire someone to clean your room. Hire a financial advisor to manage your finances. Find a primary care doctor who responds to messages on the patient portal and communicates over email.
One medical for doctor. Found a regular cleaning lady and pay her nicely. Automate your finances - read “I will teach you to be rich” and do it over a weekend
I don't know if you have this option, but honestly having a work from home day has helped me with this. I am able to casually get some laundry done in between calls and can run some errands or have a doctor's appointment on that day.
Set up autopay and keep some cash in your checking.
Use mint - it can track your bills and budgets
Consulting firms will take whatever you give them. Ask yourself honestly, if I put in 95% instead of 100% - would it matter? What would it change? Is my 5% energy put in something that truly makes me happy and as a consequence helps performance at work?
Take Friday post 5 PM off. Run errands Friday and keep weekends open.
Embrace the fact that you’ll never have it all. You are at a time to push on your career development and that may take time over your family and friends. When you believe, you are ready to switch, and you’ll know you are - make it and live with it.
“ One doesn’t require courage to work at McKinsey, but rather leaving McKinsey” - me. Don’t know if that makes sense but applies to your job as well
Take a 1wk vacation. Use the first weekend and M-W to relax. Use Th/F/S/Su to catch up on errands and create a plan to prevent from going underwater again. Return Monday all caught up and refreshed.
I did this and it was a game changer. I also decided if I have to choose between Netflix or having all my clothes folded, it’s ok to choose Netflix sometimes. What happens if I don’t fold my clothes? Nothing. But if I don’t take a break sometimes, I’m going crazy
I am right there with you
IMO it’s important to have a SO who can meaningfully split finances with you so both people can somewhat have a life. My GF says that even the super competitive specialties in medicine that take like 80 hr weeks (e.g. neurosurgery) are having more trouble filling residency slots these days. We both decided we would pursue paths that are still competitive, but won’t take 100% from either one of us. Else, one person would have to become stay at home. No one really “has it all”. Every day is just a trade off between time and money
I would say 50 is about right. Hours ebb and flow and can depend on how much you want to take on and own. Having a team and no client does help, because there won’t be as many times where something “has” to get done by some arbitrary deadline. It’s more important that problems are solved correctly and well vs. taking an extra day may not matter as much
YES
TO ALL OF THE ABOVE
Geese, some of y’all really seem to have your priorities out of whack. Gotta dedicate legitimate time to keep your mental, physical, and financial health current! For some of those things there’s a point where it’s hard to come back from!
Totally relate to what you are feeling. Lately been wondering if it's time to leave.
Yes, I also feel like this. Has made me start valuing my time a lot more than my money. I’ll pay for services if it means I don’t have to waste time/energy behind errands or figuring things out.
That's why I left consulting. My daughter's first full sentence was "where is mommy?". I cried so much once I came to the realization that I was traveling so much for work. Each week I showed up with a suitcase to pick her up at daycare once my plane gets in on a Friday afternoon. The staff there probably thought that I'm homeless. ;)
Completely relatable and is the reason why today is my last day. However you can simplify some stuff e.g. setting up auto payment on bills, auto deposit into investment and savings accounts, investing into a balanced etf.
I also think that it’s never okay to sacrifice health (physically and mentally) for career.
Good luck!
Exactly why I left a few weeks ago too! Congratulations and well done for putting your health first - it took me way too long (and way too many horrible days) to figure that out.