Does anyone feel super lonely? I have a lot of friends but they’re not super deep connections. I can easily make social plans for 3-5 days if the week but I don’t have many friends that feel super solid and deep. I’m single too and I think I’m just feeling very alone

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Very relatable. My closer friends are out of state but as they enter serious relationships it's getting harder and I can only text and video chat so much
I don't have a lot of friends in my city and spend many many weekends at home alone and dating here is just trash.
Hang in there. Give yourself grace

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M1, you’re me. Thank you for sharing ❤️

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Hmm why do you think these friends are not super deep? Maybe you can form deeper bonds with them where you can rely on them and tell them details about your life? I have also been single for a year, I do occasionally feel Lonley but then I focus on working on myself (focus on hobbies, focus on career, focus on creating good habits, reading and learning more). When I am really fixated on something the loneliness dissipates. I see my friends anywhere from every single day to once a week and I don't think the frequency means much but more the quality of what you are doing together (I find time when we share an experience like an art class, playing a board game or etc mean a lot more than just grabbing brunch and just drinking)

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Seconding this, I've realized over time it's a me thing that I'm not emotionally vulnerable and my interactions don't really go anywhere despite occurring frequently enough.

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I'm with you - I moved from the east coast and a bunch of deep college friends to a "professional life" in the west coast, and I feel extremely alone. I've been out here about 7 years, and always get a few initial connects with work friends or friends of friends, but it never feels deep.

I would recommend cultivating 1-2 of your favorites - as we age (I'm 34) I feel like my connections are being balanced between others and their primary relationships, but I don't really feel cared for like I do my close girlfriends from early work life/college life.

Something that helped was meeting others while traveling - the problem, is that most of my "good" girlfriends, again, don't live in this city.

Maybe join a meetup or try to figure out what activities really speak to you? If it's volunteering, or lectures, or workouts.. maybe you can meet people there and go for it? Also, don't feel bad about deepening the relationship by focusing on seeing 1-2 people more often instead of 3-5 people a week. I had to learn to be more vulnerable with people to get that closeness, but I still feel like I'm on the periphery of a lot of people.

Hope you find some resolution soon!

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I’m curious if you’ve considered moving to be closer to friends?

I feel the very exact same way!!!!

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