Does anyone have a spouse who stays home with your kids? How did you make that decision? Anything outside of finances we should make sure we’ve thought through?

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I’d say use the opportunity to level set ALL expectations. He will need some time to recharge after long days with the kids. You will need to do < 50% house and mental labor. Just lay all your cards on the table, this is the right time to do so!

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No mom should have way less than 50% if she’s the breadwinner and dads staying home.

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Yep! My husband is a stay at home dad. Childcare was going to cost almost the same as his salary. He has a few “passion projects” that bring in fun money but his main “job” is the house and the kiddos

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We both "stay home" but I'm the one who works full time (wfh). Where we live his trade is undervalued (construction) and it just didnt make sense for him to make $15/hr when he could be home and doing what we need done, and using his skills to enhance our property and home value. We share most household chores (I cook more, he cleans more), but we also have a small farm so he does almost all the animal chores, fencing, mowing, etc etc etc. He also takes odd jobs here and there for small renovations or repairs he can do for neighbors in a weekend. With our first on the way, our plan is for me to reduce hours when I return to work and for him to handle most of the care during the day when I do work. Since we should be done with most major projects it should work out well.... We'll just have to wait and see.

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Yes. He didn't have a job that paid enough to cover daycare. We made the decision together for me to take a job that offered a pay increase more than his job paid him. The trade off is that I work more.

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