Does anyone have parents who put you down or rarely provide positive? It often feels like I receive negative comments while siblings receive praise & pos. attention. I felt neglected as a child & now

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Don’t get me wrong, not doubting your judgement, but I would deeply introspect and ensure it’s not jealousy at your end. And if it isn’t, what’s the root cause of the favoritism. And if you can’t figure out, let things be . What are you going to gain by outranking your siblings?

I had a different situation, my dad was a child prodigy and everyone around him was stupid in his eyes! Including me of course ! I learnt to live with it. Also they like my sibling more- it doesn’t matter to me. He looks after them more than I do. I love them regardless and they love me back, more or less than my sibling, I don’t care!

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And if they really put you down, ignore them, dissociate yourself within reason. Find love elsewhere, and if you can’t, reset your perspective to be content with what you have. Easier said than done I know!

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My stepdad called me Hoover and my mom thought it was funny. And they wonder why I have body image issues now. I totally get it.

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Thanks Manager. I def. have jealousy toward one particular sibling because for some reason she’s the golden child. My parents scuff that off and don’t agree with my POV. Maybe I’m wrong but I even see discrepancies between praise of grandchildren depending on the sibling. My mom will remark on how the golden child’s kids are good looking yet I don’t think I’ve heard the same about the other grandchildren who I think have the same level of attractiveness. Anyway, there’s a bunch of discrepancies but I don’t know how to not let it bother me. I love your attitude and strive to think like you. I just do not know how (I have several siblings and I’m in the middle of course).

McKinsey - thank you. I understand the negative comments and it’s role in body image. My mom use to say I was too thin (which I was from having an unhealthy body image starting around my teen years) to now telling me that my legs and butt are too big and aren’t feminine. I strength train and thought I looked great. I told my boyfriend and he totally disagrees and says my muscle gives me nice curves and aren’t overkill. I don’t know, her comment made me think that I should lose weight and that I’m possibly too big.

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