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4 weeks for non primary caregivers? Find a better firm.
Mentor
Could you become the primary caregiver once your spouse goes back to work?
Coach
Yeah that’s brutal. I got 18 non primary at Goodwin.
My firm has a similar distinction. I experienced some informal pushback when I floated the idea of me (the father) taking leave as a primary caregiver. Hope other firms are a little more enlightened.
Yes, we're planning to both be primary caregivers (work roughly equal amounts and care for our kids together). I'm baffled by 4 weeks - no go for sure - so trying to confirm I can qualify as the primary caregiver even if I didn't give birth.
My firm’s shitty policy is that you can’t be the primary if there is someone else at home taking care of the baby. I also get four weeks as non-primary and not sure what to do.
Coach
When I took parental leave at Willkie (18 months ago, so this may have changed), it was 10 weeks for fathers and 18 for mothers (8 extra for disability). No one asks primary vs secondary and no one cares.
non-birthing is pejorative and anti-women
Can you help me understand what you mean? Language changes, so maybe I've missed it, but non-birthing just means the partner who didn't give birth. It's a really helpful term for me as a queer person. You can be a non-birthing mother or, if you're trans, a birthing father or parent. The language acknowledges that folks of all identities give birth. I don't see how that's anti-women. It's pro-people.
Thank you, this is helpful!