Does male bachelorette parties make anyone else cringe? I am invited to one and can’t stop cringing at the thought of matching PJs and taking pictures for Instagram. Like, I was hoping for an easy guys trip, but it will be mostly women. Is it super rude to not go?

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Bachelor parties are not really about you. They’re about supporting the person who is about to get married. If you find the things they are doing to be too expensive or really against what you’re comfortable with, don’t go. But if it’s within reason and just feels more like stuff you wouldn’t normally do, you should go as I’m sure friends will do things they wouldn’t normally do at your party.

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Shouldn’t it be all guys?

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It doesn’t have to be only men…most of my friends are women and I would want to celebrate with them not just males for the sake of following a patriarchal tradition

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Certainly not my style if I was doing one but would still go to celebrate

Why is it mostly women? I’d go (and had one) with guys - appropriate combinations of nice dinners, bars and clubs and a bit of debauchery - but wouldn’t go on a twee PJ-matching one. I guess it depends on the friend/friendship and tone of it.

Most of his high school and college friends were women and he didn’t make gay friends until after college. It’s probably an interpersonal issue, but thinking about participating in all the cute tradition wedding stuff and taking pictures to show everyone how cute we can get makes me feel really fake and uncomfortable.

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I would not go. Not my style, and no one I know would ever even think about something like this.

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