Does your mother motivate you to succeed in the workplace? Anyone else trying to emulate Dad because they can’t relate to Mom?

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My mother was a hustler... investment banker... get my drive from her. My dad cruised up the latter like mediocre white males do 😂

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My mom was a SAHM and was miserable. Our relationship is strained and honestly a lot of my ambition in my early career was fueled by my lingering anger that she didn’t get treatment for depression or get a part time job to make herself happier. I’ve let a lot of that go but I still struggle with those thoughts sometimes. So yes, she motivates me, but maybe not in the way you were hoping to hear 😂

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Similar situation here. Honestly feels good to know others had the same experience of striving not to be like their mothers - most people only sing praises for their families 😔

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My dad is my career role model, tireless work ethic, best in his field, insanely intelligent, dedicated, and highly respected. He loves and encourages me, and the weight of his expectations and how he has pushed me demand nothing but the best from me. But he’s also an intellectual and EQ is not his forte. He’s a doer and his love language towards me has always been acts of service and quality time. My mom is my COACH though. She gave up a career in biology research to raise me at home because that’s what they both wanted. She’s the one who has fielded a decade of phone calls startingwhen I was a baby analyst putting up with misogyny, scared and confused about sexual harassment from my boss, to being a little older and moving abroad for work to a country where I didn’t speak the language — she would translate things over the phone long distance for me on my company blackberry (pre smart phone days) when I was in the grocery store 😂 She sends me emails before my big presentations and when I was abroad, care packages when I was having a hard time or just because. She knows if she hasn’t heard from me in awhile I’m probably stressed out and busy and will reach out but understand if it takes me a week to be back in touch. And she brags on me all the time to her friends which makes me smile to know she’s proud 😇 Point being I couldn’t have done it without either of them and they both brought their own strengths to motivate me to succeed. I see sometimes my mom feels a bit on the outside when my dad and I get into big “corporate world” discussions and she doesn’t have the same examples from her volunteer work to relate to how we talk. But I hope she knows I couldn’t have done any of this without her too. Is there something about how your mom supports you that helps you show up at your best at work?

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My mom has found a long lost fire as a union activist. She always tells me is that having her witness me go through university (I’m the first one to do so) and graduating gives her confidence and makes her unafraid. That mutualistic symbiotic relationship gives me strength to put up with the bullshit at work. If your dad is a positive role model, why suppress that?

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Do you expect your parents to be your role models for everything? While my mother is a surgeon and very successful in her field, she’s also an incredibly cold and narcissistic person. My grandmother was my role model growing up as an incredibly kind person with high emotional IQ. She didn’t have as much of a high powered career as a woman living in the 60s but she gets all the credit for raising me to be a good person, I wish I had some of the qualities and patience that she did. My point is, I wouldn’t look down on your mother if career wasn’t her passion in life. There are probably other traits and things she did in her life you can look up to. Perhaps your Dad could be a role model for career success and your Mom for relationship building and soft skills (or what her strong suits might be).

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Valid point... my mother was also cold and narcissistic.

I wish I had a stronger female role model :/

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Dad was a Wall Street guy, super-successful after a rocky start in life. Mom was a SAHM, but she was the “intellectual” in the family and came from money. Mom is my “people” role model - Dad was always my “work” role model until he passed. I got a lot from both of them. Never assume a SAHM lacks ambition or drive - my mom was a product of her upbringing and her generation...she did exactly what she was expected to do and wanted to do, and was lucky that she never HAD to work to support our family. Now she’s on her own for basically the first time in her life, and she’s doing great.

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My mom taught me to never be dependent on a man for finances - as she felt she was. That has helped me with many of my life’s decisions. She’s definitely the emotional support and my dad is the the more intellectual support on things within his wheelhouse. It’s a good mix across the board.

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My mother had a Ph.D., so yeah I work hard to keep learning and growing in my career.

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Both my parents worked in what would be “high powered” corporate jobs - mom was VP, dad CEO. As you’d expect that came with its own set of tradeoffs in terms of family time growing up, but they are both absolutely role models to my sibling and I where work ethic & excellence is kinda just assumed, and I do consider that to be a privilege. They are also good role models, but for different things - I try to emulate different parts of both. And I think those would be the same qualities I’d emulate / not emulate regardless of whether they worked or not, it’s just who they are as people and their core beliefs about how to treat others.

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I had a single dad (mom died young, stepmom that came a decade later never worked). I definitely get my work ethic (and instinct for house projects from dad.

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My mom was a lawyer! Def my role model

My mom is the strongest person I know. Dad has struggled all his life with work. So we pretty much grew up on a single income household with my mom being the bread winner. She actually studied with me. When I was in highschool she completed her Masters. Then became a lecturer. She has been my inspiration throughout. Though now she doesn't really get the nuances of my job but I'm still able to navigate situations by thinking what would mom do.

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