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I’ve walked a few miles in those shoes and here’s my best advice for what it’s worth: 1) Definitely discuss your realization with your doctor because medication adjustment may well provide the relief you are needing. For example, lithium can be linked to thyroid changes that can actually trigger depression. And it’s often an add-on vs solo treatment for depression, so tell your doctor how you are feeling and ask what options he can recommend to help. It’s not complaining, it’s vital information - think of it as data needed by your expert consultant:) 2) I really encourage you to add counselling therapy if you are not already getting that; if you are and it’s not helping, ask your doctor to refer you to someone else. 3) Sounds like burnout could certainly be a contributing factor. I’m not sure if you mean you are working full time and have gotten relief from your husband on one/five weekdays from kid duties, or you are working 4 days a week but still have bulk of childcare, but either way that’s far from a balanced load and unlikely to repair longstanding burnout. If you need more support from your husband, but don’t know how to ask for it, maybe that could be a topic for counselling. 4. Try looking for a supportive Facebook group that resonates. Depression is often linked to other challenges - for me it’s ADHD - for my friend it’s bipolar diagnosis, and a family member has misophonia - and there are closed (members only) Facebook groups for people struggling with depression as well as these comorbidities. Read before you share too much, but many of these private groups are incredibly kind and supportive. It can be hard to find the energy to make friends and these groups can sometimes offer accessible but private opportunities to listen and to share with others experiencing similar. 5. I hope one of these suggestions helps, but the most important one is to ask for help from those close to you and from those treating you, until together you find what works for you. It would be convenient if depression always came with a why, but often it just comes. It’s not your fault. It’s not your weakness. It’s not your destiny. It just is, at the moment, and that sucks. You deserve help to find the right treatment for you. I’m rooting for you!!
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If you can tell that the tangible reasons you have for feeing bad are not really it, you may be experiencing what’s called an emotional flashback, which I get and it feels like the deepest pit of inescapable doom, like
I’m dead already. They can last hours to months. https://www.goodrx.com/health-topic/mental-health/what-are-emotional-flashbacks
There is a book I'm reading called "You're not listening" [what youre missing and why it matters] and my 10 second explanation of it's that it is a professional journalists plea with people to take in the world around them, bec thats where life exists.
My favorite thing that I've read so far in the book, and I'm only 20% in.... is what makes us feel connected to each other is having someone to share our thoughts and feelings with, and for someone to share theirs with us. That's it. 😭🤷♀️
It sounds like you're maybe feeling isolated as well, and that spending free time with mostly your kids isn't sustaining you emotionally. This is entirely reasonable!!
Remember that even if you feel alone, it's only temporary! You got this!! You will make new friends soon! Can you call up a relative or mom friend if you have one, ask them/her how they've been handling things? Hear about their stress and ask them if yall can swap realities for a second and live vicariously through each other.
My friends and I joke about it all the time to help us suspend our stress even for just a moment. We joke about it so light heartedly bec we're also stressing tf out. But try it? Dive into their world. Maybe they can dive into yours. You can have a better day soon. Don't give up!
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Definitely the loneliness. Medications, at a certain point, stop functioning if you’ve been taking them for a long time. Therapy can help. How is your relationship with your husband? The reason I ask this is you shouldn’t feel loneliness unless that aspect is also not working well. If so, I’d work on that first, then work outwards into creating more friends. Or at least acquaintances.
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How old are the kids? Is there something you can do with mom groups? If they are not in school yet then can you meet some parents thru day care/ pre school? Try play dates to get to know the parents as well; maybe you will click with someone.