Drinking issues: how does one cope?
Zero social life/ activities and all wfh have gotten me into drinks throughout the evening. I black out and my drinking habits are giving me lots of shame the morning after.

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Hey you sound a lot like me back in 2020 - feel free to dm me. College drinking + trying to cope with WFH & isolation turned ugly.

I have been turning myself around by getting a fitness tracker - I push myself to do 10000 steps a day (~5miles) walk/jog/run. I have been doing intermittent fasting as well. I feel like it allows me to regulate myself. Been sleeping better and also use my time for effectively. And learning personal finance and stuff on the side to occupy myself. Reach out I mean it, happy to be your friend

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I haven’t had a drink in almost seven years. I was throwing back about a liter of whiskey a day, barely got through law school, and failed the bar the first time around. Knowing that my choices were to stop drinking or to probably flame out of my job early, I decided to go through a short inpatient program. It worked wonders for me. I have two recommendations. First, try out the techniques others are posting, and see if you’re able to curb the drinking on your own. Problem drinking rewires your brain, and the ideal path forward is to stop drinking before the short-circuiting has gone too far. Second, if you’re not able to control the drinking, look into professional treatment centers. Feel free to DM me if you’re interested. I can recommend a place that’s a little different from the usual retreat-style, talk-therapy-heavy programs, and it’s relatively short (10 days). Best of luck to you.

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I have dealt with “greening” out a lot during WFH. Never drank much, but have always abused weed especially when I’m anxious or feeling like I need an escape. It really helps me to 1) remove the problem temporarily (get rid of the weed), 2) use the gym at night and actually get up and go somewhere so I’m not stuck at home, and 3) maintain an evening and morning routine. A lot of people say the morning routine is important, but setting up a routine at night to set the next day up for success is equally as important.

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@OP - first thing, you have taken a huge first step acknowledging it and being open about it. I can a lot of what you said really resonates with me; I will say A1s advice is very helpful. I have a truly addictive personality so the first step was making it less accessible (stopped restocking on burbon, vodka, rum, wine and beer) and made the alternative easier stocked up on 1L of Evian and started drinking cascare (tea hybrid). See if you can have people that will support silently - my gf would order non-alcoholic; a close mate from my Accenture class would serve me solo cups at predrinks. The toughest thing IMO was family; my parents are very conservative but in the old school way of not wanting to deal to acknowledge and recognize weakness (more so my mother). With my father, at one point at our cottage, who I never seen him have more than 3 drinks (most of the time just 1 beer) he shared he had lost his licence while working at his eng firm around same age...his advice was need to live and control demons but cannot live like they don’t exist. Long message short - good to see you recognize it - you’re journey will be different but seek help with others

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But don't you get bored drinking alone? I have a drinking problem but I just like having fun with people and getting trashed every weekend.

Just trying to understand.

We someone who drank alone during the pandemic - you just drink to forget about the weight of life. I would start with a bottle of wine while watching a film, then whiskey or vodka. By 1-2am, I’m trashed and drunk calling my friends. Wake up the next day feeling like shit because I probably called an old flame - or worse thing I’ve done was total my car when I was drunk. (Damaged my undercarriage but for some reason insurance filed it as a not a fault incident and I got my money back for the car) < that was my tipping point. So I still drink on weekends but in moderation

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Lean into it. You can clean up in a few months when we go back to life 🤪

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